Islam And Children

The topic of Islam and children includes Islamic principles of child development, the rights of children in Islam, the duties of children towards their parents, and the rights of parents over their children, both biological and foster children.

Islam identifies three distinct stages of child development, each lasting 7 years, from age 0-21. Each comes with specific prescriptions for what a child is to learn and what their relationship with their parents should be.

Muslims have the right to a marriage arranged by their parents when they are old enough, though the Quran does not specify what age that is. Different traditions and countries have different views on readiness for marriage.

Fostering is strongly encouraged, but it is frowned upon to adopt a child and treat them as your own. Instead, they should maintain their own "natal identity."

Muhammad's interactions with children

Muhammad had seven children, three boys and four girls. All of his sons, including Ibrahim ibn Muhammad, died in infancy. Because of this, his experience as a father is sometimes described as "sorrowful". Muhammad also had an adopted son, Zayd, who is said to be the object of Muhammad's parental affection. He also had two grandsons, Hasan and Husayn, and three granddaughters, Umm Kulthum, Zaynab, and Umamah.Stewart, p.113 In one Islamic tradition, Muhammad ran after Husayn in a game until he caught him. Muhammad used to let Umamah sit on his shoulders while he was praying. When someone expressed astonishment at the Prophet when the Prophet kissed his grandchild, he responded, "what can I do if God has deprived your heart of all human feeling?"

Muhammad has been described as being very fond of children in general. Watt attributes this to Muhammad's yearning for children, as most of his own children died before him.Watt (1974), p. 230 He comforted a child whose pet nightingale had died.Phipps, p. 120 Muhammad played many games with children, joked with them and befriended them. Muhammad also showed love to children of other religions. Once he visited his Jewish neighbor's son when the child was sick.Yust, p.72-3

Once, Muhammad was sitting with a child in his lap, and the child urinated over Muhammad. Embarrassed, the father scolded the child. Muhammad restrained the father and advised him: "This is not a big issue. My clothes can be washed. But be careful with how you treat the child. What can restore his self-esteem after you have dealt with him in public like this?"

Child development

In an hadith, Muhammad prescribed three stages of child development of seven years each; according to Muhammad:
* During the first seven years, a child should have the freedom to explore their curiosities, and to look at and experiment with things as they so choose, with little or no parental interference in such pursuits. Mothers are tasked with a larger role in this first stage of a child's life, being responsible for building and nurturing a healthy emotional connection with the child.
* In the second seven years, a child should be taught right from wrong, and even disciplined if necessary. This is also the time parents should instill habits of prayer and Quran study in the child. Fathers are instructed to take the lead in this stage of the child's life.
* During the third seven years, a child should have more of a friendly and collaborative relationship with the parents.

Rights of children

Muhammad said: "Every one of you is a protector and guardian and responsible for your wards and things under your care and a man is a guardian of his family members, and is accountable for those placed under his charge." (Bukhari and Muslim)

One of the rights that children have over their parents is to be provided with marriage when they are old enough without delaying it.

Children have the right to equal treatment with respect to their siblings in terms of financial gifts.

Marriage

Consent

All Sunni/Shia schools of thought agree that forced marriages are strictly forbidden in Islam, as Islamic marriages are contracts between two consenting parties referred to as '' mithaq''.

In addition, Muhammad gave women the power to annul their marriages if it was found that they had been married against their consent.

The Maliki school of thought gives the right of ''ijbar'' to the guardian. ''Ijbar'' is defined as the annulment of marriage due to objection by male guardian. According to Malik ibn Anas, children due to their immaturity may choose an unsuitable partner for themselves, hence, the power of ''ijbar'' has been given to the guardian so that he may overrule the child to marry someone he thinks is unsuitable for her. This is the legal right given to the guardian for girls by Maliki school of thought.

Age of marriage

No age limits have been fixed by Islam for marriage according to Reuben Levy,Levy, p.106 and "quite young children may be legally married". The girl may not live with the husband however until she is fit for marital sexual relations. The Hanafi madhhab of Islamic ''fiqh'' maintains that a wife must not be taken to her husband's house until she reaches the condition of fitness for sexual relations. Levy adds:

In Islamic legal terminology, ''baligh'' refers to a person who has reached maturity, puberty or adulthood and has full responsibility under Islamic law. Legal theorists assign different ages and criteria for reaching this state for both males and females. For women, ''baligh'' or ''balaghat'' in terms of sexual maturity is manifested by menses. However, only after a separate condition called ''rushd'', or intellectual maturity to handle one's own property, is reached can a girl receive her bridewealth.

Adoption and fostering

Islam highly recommends the "fostering" of children, defined as "assuming partial or complete responsibility of a child in lieu of the biological parents". However, Islam forbids naming the child as one's own or creating any "fictive relationships". Islamic adoption is sometimes called "fostering" or "partial adoption" and is similar to " open adoption".Ingrid Matison, "Adoption and Fostering", ''Encyclopedia of Women & Islamic Cultures'' Traditionally Islam has viewed legal adoption as a source of potential problems, such as accidentally marrying one's sibling or when distributing inheritance.A. Giladi, ''saqir'', Encyclopedia of Islam, Brill

Adoption was a common practice in pre-Islamic Arabia. According to this custom, the adopted son would take the name of his adoptive parent, and would be assimilated into the family in a "legal sense". Islam viewed this practice as "erasure of natal identity". This practice was sometimes done for emotional reasons, such as pity, but adoption was also a means through which slaves were stripped of their identities and given the name of their enslaver. The Quran replaced the pre-Islamic custom of adoption by the recommendation that "believers treat children of unknown origin as their brothers in the faith".

See also

* Islam and humanity
*Child marriage
*Islamic views on slavery

*Women in Islam
*Religion and children

*Children of Muhammad

Notes

References

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* Phipps, William E (1999).''Muhammad and Jesus: A Comparison of the Prophets and Their Teachings''. Continuum International Publishing Group.
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* Stewart, P.J (1994). ''Unfolding Islam''. UK: Garnet & Ithaca Press.
* Watt, William Montgomery (1974). ''Muhammad: Prophet and Statesman''. Oxford University Press.
* Yust, Karen-Marie (2006).''Nurturing Child And Adolescent Spirituality: Perspectives from the World's Religious Traditions''. Rowman & Littlefield.

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* ''Encyclopaedia of Islam''. Ed. P. Bearman et al., Leiden: Brill, 1960–2005.
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