''Simp'' is an
internet slang
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term describing someone who shows excessive sympathy and attention toward another person, typically someone who does not reciprocate the same feelings, in pursuit of affection or a
sexual relationship
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.
''
Urban Dictionary
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'' defines a simp as "someone who does way too much for a person they like".
This behavior, known as ''simping'',
is carried out toward a variety of targets, including celebrities,
politicians,
e-girls, and e-boys.
The term had sporadic usage until getting traction on social media in 2019, to mock men said to pander to specific women.
Origins
Originally a shortening of "
simpleton," the ''
New Partridge Dictionary of Slang and Unconventional English'' traces usage of the noun ''simp'' to 1903.
The shortening has appeared for example in the ''
New York Times
''The New York Times'' (''the Times'', ''NYT'', or the Gray Lady) is a daily newspaper based in New York City with a worldwide readership reported in 2020 to comprise a declining 840,000 paid print subscribers, and a growing 6 million paid ...
'' as early as 1923,
when the paper reported on a letter by one Lillian Henderson criticizing the members of two clubs in
Atlantic City for unmarried men:
Those bachelor simps are afraid to take a chance and too tight to share their earnings with a wife.
''Simp'' began to have the connotation of someone being "soft" and "overly sympathetic" in the 1980s, when it was used by
West Coast rappers such a
Hugh E.M.C.
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,
Too Short
Todd Anthony Shaw (born April 28, 1966), better known by the stage name Too Short (stylized as Too $hort), is an American rapper and record producer. He became famous in the West Coast hip hop scene in the late 1980s, with lyrics often based on ...
, and
E-40
Earl Tywone Stevens Sr. (born November 15, 1967), better known by his stage name E-40, is an American rapper. He is a founding member of the rap group The Click, and the founder of Sick Wid It Records. He has released 26 studio albums to date, ...
.
In 1999, the term was used in the
Three 6 Mafia
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song "
Sippin' on Some Syrup"
as an antonym for ''
pimp
Procuring or pandering is the facilitation or provision of a prostitute or other sex worker in the arrangement of a sex act with a customer. A procurer, colloquially called a pimp (if male) or a madam (if female, though the term pimp has still ...
'';
Too Short has described a "simp" as equivalent to "a knockoff pimp".
The term has been expressed as an
acronym
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for ''Sucker/Sucka Idolizing Mediocre
Pussy
''Pussy'' is a used as a noun, an adjective, and—in rare instances—a verb in the English language. It has several meanings, as slang, as euphemism, and as vulgarity. The most common as a noun, it means "cat", as well as " coward or weakl ...
'',
which according to ''
Gizmodo Australia
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'' is "telling of its 20th century origins".
A definition of ''simp'' appeared on ''
Urban Dictionary
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'' in 2005,
and the word continued to be used by rappers into the 2010s, when it was adopted by members of
manosphere
The manosphere is a collection of websites, blogs, and online forums promoting masculinity, misogyny, and opposition to feminism. Communities within the manosphere include men's rights activists, incels (involuntary celibates), Men Going Their ...
,
incel
An incel ( , an abbreviation of "involuntary celibate") is a member of an online subculture of people who define themselves as unable to get a romantic or sexual partner despite desiring one. Discussions in incel forums are often character ...
,
and MGTOW (
Men Going Their Own Way
Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW ) is an anti-feminist, misogynistic, mostly-online community advocating for men to separate themselves from women and from a society which they believe has been corrupted by feminism. The community is a part ...
)
forums alongside similar derogatory terms such as ''
cuck'', ''
beta
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'', and ''
white knight
A white knight is a mythological figure and literary stock character. They are portrayed alongside a black knight as diametric opposites. A white knight usually represents a heroic warrior fighting against evil, with the role in medieval literat ...
''.
The word became widely popular on
TikTok
TikTok, known in China as Douyin (), is a short-form video hosting service owned by the Chinese company ByteDance. It hosts user-submitted videos, which can range in duration from 15 seconds to 10 minutes.
TikTok is an international version ...
in 2019,
and soon also became popular on
Twitch
Twitch may refer to:
Biology
* Muscle contraction
** Convulsion, rapid and repeated muscle contraction and relaxation
** Fasciculation, a small, local, involuntary muscle contraction
** Myoclonic twitch, a jerk usually caused by sudden muscle co ...
and
Twitter
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.
According to
Google Trends
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, interest in the term doubled between late 2018 and late 2019.
The word has been used by some
fan communities who call themselves "simps" for a celebrity figure.
According to ''
The Daily Dot
''The Daily Dot'' is a digital media company covering the culture of the Internet and the World Wide Web. Founded by Nicholas White in 2011, ''The Daily Dot'' is headquartered in Austin, Texas.
The site, conceived as the Internet's "hometow ...
'', the term is often used
ironically
Irony (), in its broadest sense, is the juxtaposition of what on the surface appears to be the case and what is actually the case or to be expected; it is an important rhetorical device and literary technique.
Irony can be categorized into ...
;
similarly, Magdalene Taylor at ''
MEL Magazine'' says the term is "used mostly as a joke".
Nathan Grayson writes at ''
Kotaku
''Kotaku'' is a video game website and blog that was originally launched in 2004 as part of the Gawker Media network. Notable former contributors to the site include Luke Smith, Cecilia D'Anastasio, Tim Rogers, and Jason Schreier.
History ...
'' that it is "difficult to find breaks in the chain of the word’s linguistic lineage".
Contemporary usage
In July 2020, the official Twitter account for
Archie Comics
Archie Comic Publications, Inc., is an American comic book publisher headquartered in Pelham, New York.[YouTube
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channel for comments calling the comics' main character,
Archie Andrews
Archibald "Archie" Andrews, created in 1941 by publisher John L. Goldwater and artist Bob Montana in collaboration with writer Vic Bloom, , a simp.
''
The A.V. Club
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'' opined that, while it was "pretty safe to say that Archie Andrews is, quite simply, the simpiest of the simps." The Twitter post was likely an attempt at exploiting the
Streisand effect
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for
viral marketing
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. Contrary to the Twitter post, few, if any, comments on the Archie Comics YouTube channel accused the character of being a simp.
In August,
Australian politician
Bill Shorten
William Richard Shorten (born 12 May 1967) is an Australian politician currently serving as Minister for Government Services and Minister for the National Disability Insurance Scheme since 2022. He previously served as leader of the opposition ...
used the term on national television, saying on an
ABC segment that Prime Minister
Scott Morrison
Scott John Morrison (; born 13 May 1968) is an Australian politician. He served as the 30th prime minister of Australia and as Leader of the Liberal Party of Australia from 2018 to 2022, and is currently the member of parliament (MP) for t ...
needed "to make sure he doesn't look like he's just a simp to
Donald Trump
Donald John Trump (born June 14, 1946) is an American politician, media personality, and businessman who served as the 45th president of the United States from 2017 to 2021.
Trump graduated from the Wharton School of the University of ...
".
In September, users of
Reddit
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created a pledge called "No Simp September", similar to
No Nut November
No Nut November is an internet challenge revolving around male abstinence from masturbation, sex and ejaculation (or colloquially "to nut") during the month of November. It originated in late 2010 and grew in popularity on social media during a ...
(a month-long
abstention from masturbation). Participation in "No Simp September" required posters to abstain from upvoting women's photos, watching
pornography
Pornography (often shortened to porn or porno) is the portrayal of sexual subject matter for the exclusive purpose of sexual arousal. Primarily intended for adults, , and "giving money to online
sex workers", including "
e-girl
E-girls and e-boys, sometimes collectively known as e-kids, are a youth subculture of Gen Z that emerged in the late 2010s, notably popularized by the video-sharing app TikTok. It is an evolution of emo, scene and mall goth fashion combined wi ...
s".
In October, Mikael Thalen at ''The Daily Dot'' described Twitter users as "simping hard" over leaked photos of
Hunter Biden
Robert Hunter Biden (born February 4, 1970) is an American attorney who is the second son of U.S. President Joe Biden and his first wife Neilia Hunter Biden. He is also a hedge fund, venture capital, and private-equity fund investor who form ...
.
A November 20 article in ''
Vox'' about posting
cringe
Cringe is a response to embarrassment or social awkwardness.
Cringe may also refer to:
*Cultural cringe, the feeling of inferiority about one's own culture
*Cringe comedy, a comedy genre
*Cringe pop, a genre of pop music
*The Cringe
The Crin ...
on TikTok discussed the
character
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* ''Character'' (novel), a 1936 Dutch novel by Ferdinand Bordewijk
* ''Characters'' (Theophrastus), a classical Greek set of character sketches attributed to The ...
of TikTok user Nate Varrone called "Mr. Simp Sexual", of the "biggest stars" of the genre.
Varrone explained the character thus:
He's from Michigan and he had a girlfriend named Melissa that he just wants back so fucking badly ..He's just not in a good place right now, emotionally. I think he uses TikTok to fill the hole in his heart and find a new lover. The horniness this guy has, no human has ever felt that amount of horny in their entire life. It's like he has a curse. He thinks he has to hook up immediately or else he'll die.
In January 2021, ''
Vogue
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Business
* ''Vogue'' (magazine), a US fashion magazine
** British ''Vogue'', a British fashion magazine
** ''Vogue Arabia'', an Arab fashion magazine
** ''Vogue Australia'', an Australian fashion magazine
** ''Vogue China'', ...
'' reported on an "adoring" Instagram account of self-declared "simps" expressing affection toward then-
Georgia
Georgia most commonly refers to:
* Georgia (country), a country in the Caucasus region of Eurasia
* Georgia (U.S. state), a state in the Southeast United States
Georgia may also refer to:
Places
Historical states and entities
* Related to t ...
Senate candidate
Jon Ossoff
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.
Reception
While the term initially denoted a specific kind of
sycophant
In modern English, sycophant denotes an "insincere flatterer" and is used to refer to someone practising sycophancy (i.e., insincere flattery to gain advantage). The word has its origin in the legal system of Classical Athens. Most legal cases o ...
, upon achieving broad popularity, it began to be used more loosely. In April 2020, an opinion piece in ''
Men's Health
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Started as a men's health maga ...
'' described the use of the term as "pretty messed up", and men who labeled others with the term as "entitled assholes", saying, "if you've ever complimented a woman, apparently you're a simp".
Hayley Soen writes at ''
The Tab
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'' that "the simp has come to take the place of the
softboi", describing him as "a boy who is a romantic failure
..definitely the type of boy you'd tell the girls is 'a little too nice, and "probably doesn't even have a lads' group chat"; Soen writes that the term is used "sometimes to describe even the bare minimum level of respect between a man and a woman".
According to the ''
Evening Standard
The ''Evening Standard'', formerly ''The Standard'' (1827–1904), also known as the ''London Evening Standard'', is a local free daily newspaper in London, England, published Monday to Friday in tabloid format.
In October 2009, after be ...
'', while "the term could also have some value if it undermines a culture of stringing people along emotionally", it also had "potentially offensive connotations".
In ''The New York Times'', Ezra Marcus and Jonah Bromwich describe the term as a
misogynist
Misogyny () is hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against women. It is a form of sexism that is used to keep women at a lower social status than men, thus maintaining the societal roles of patriarchy. Misogyny has been widely practiced f ...
insult, one which "expresses discomfort with equality when it comes to gender, and offers a simple way to dismiss the people causing that discomfort".
Anna María of ''The Daily Dot'' writes that while the term is mostly used "ironically and without misogynistic undertones", "it doesn't take much to be called a simp" in some
anti-feminist spaces, and that "everything from pining after a crush to actually respecting women could be considered simping".
Taylor writes that the idea of the "simp" most often "seems to be a guy who simply treats women well, or just not like trash" and is "just another scapegoat for MGTOW misogyny".
Twitch ban
In May 2020, ''Kotaku'' reported that
Twitch
Twitch may refer to:
Biology
* Muscle contraction
** Convulsion, rapid and repeated muscle contraction and relaxation
** Fasciculation, a small, local, involuntary muscle contraction
** Myoclonic twitch, a jerk usually caused by sudden muscle co ...
was "cracking down on" custom
emotes using the word "simp", and had been "on a simp emote deleting spree" since late February.
Twitch often requires its "partners" to submit custom emotes for approval prior to users being permitted to embed them; most of these emotes simply depicted a streamer or a fictional character holding up a sign with "SIMP" written on it, or were
rasterizations of the text of the word itself.
By December 2020, the word was described as a "favorite in the Twitch community" by ''
The Verge
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The website launched on November 1, 2011, and uses Vox Media' ...
''.
Twitch announced in December 2020 that administrative action would be taken against the accounts of streamers and commentators who used the word, along with "
incel
An incel ( , an abbreviation of "involuntary celibate") is a member of an online subculture of people who define themselves as unable to get a romantic or sexual partner despite desiring one. Discussions in incel forums are often character ...
" and "
virgin
Virginity is the state of a person who has never engaged in sexual intercourse. The term ''virgin'' originally only referred to sexually inexperienced women, but has evolved to encompass a range of definitions, as found in traditional, modern ...
", saying that those words were offensive;
Twitch
COO Sara Clemens said during a "town hall" live-stream that, while use of the words would be permitted under approved circumstances, Twitch would be "proactively denying" custom emotes that included the words.
This ban was part of a broader expansion of Twitch's list of forbidden content;
the policy, viewable on Twitch's website, also prohibited posting that "expresses inferiority" based on "moral deficiencies".
At the time of the announcement, the policy was planned to take effect on January 22, 2021.
Reception to the announcement and proposed policy changes was largely negative; Bryan Rolli at ''The Daily Dot'' wrote that Twitch would "probably have a hell of a time enforcing the 'simp' ban",
and ''
Gizmodo
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'' said sarcastically that "actual simps and virgins
erestill welcome" on the streaming site.
''
Screen Rant
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'' said that a blanket ban on "simp", "incel" and "virgin" contrasted unfavorably with a "context is needed" policy on the much more offensive racial slur "
nigger
In the English language, the word ''nigger'' is an ethnic slur used against black people, especially African Americans. Starting in the late 1990s, references to ''nigger'' have been progressively replaced by the euphemism , notably in cas ...
".
According to ''
Ars Technica
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'', Twitch had an "inconsistent history in responding to reports of problematic behavior".
In interviews with ''
Kotaku
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History ...
'', people affected by the ban described their channels' use of the term as mostly benign—one streamer said it was "mostly banter and, in some cases, a compliment".
Another streamer, while acknowledging that the word was sometimes used to describe "quite creepy" behavior, said her use of a "simp" emote was "mainly just a joke within my community".
See also
*
List of Generation Z slang
References
External links
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