
Sexual roleplay is
roleplay that has a strong
erotic
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element. It may involve two or more people who act out
role
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s in order to bring to life a
sexual fantasy and may be a form of
foreplay and be
sexually arousing
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. Many people regard sexual roleplay as a means of overcoming
sexual inhibition
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s. It may take place in the real world, or via an internet forum, chat-room, video-game, or email—allowing for physically or virtually impossible erotic interests to be enacted.
How seriously the play is taken depends on the participants, and the scenario may be anywhere from simple and makeshift to detailed and elaborate, including costumes and a script. The role-play may involve a fantasy based on any
social role and could incorporate any kind of
sexual fetish desired by the participants. Examples include items of
clothing experienced as erotic or one or more participants being nude. The role-play may involve elements of
dominance and submission
Dominance and submission (also called D/s) is a set of behaviors, customs, and rituals involving the submission of one person to another in an erotic episode or lifestyle. It is a subset of BDSM. This form of sexual contact and pleasure has be ...
including
sexual bondage and
erotic humiliation.
Depending on the play scenario, the roleplay may be before spectators, and bystanders may be unknowing participants in a roleplay. For example, the roleplay may involve house guests or may be taken out of a couple's home and into, say, a bar, street, park etc. A role may require, for example, one or both partners to flirt with a stranger, or for one partner to seduce the other partner's friend, etc. It may also call for one or both partners to, say, strip in a car or park.
The popularity of the
Internet
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has also allowed for online sexual encounters, known as
cybersex
Cybersex, also called computer sex, Internet sex, netsex and, colloquially, cyber or cybering, is a virtual sex encounter in which two or more people have long distance sex via electronic video communication (webcams, VR headsets, etc) and other e ...
, which may involve roleplay. In a 2015 US survey, up to 22% of respondents stated that they had performed sexual role play in their lifetime.
BDSM

Many of the most common sexual roleplays involve a power differential and form part of the
dominance and submission
Dominance and submission (also called D/s) is a set of behaviors, customs, and rituals involving the submission of one person to another in an erotic episode or lifestyle. It is a subset of BDSM. This form of sexual contact and pleasure has be ...
aspect of
BDSM
BDSM is a variety of often erotic practices or roleplaying involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and other related interpersonal dynamics. Given the wide range of practices, some of which may be engaged in ...
. Roles can be general designations of power positions, or very specific, detailed fantasies. Some people, such as those living the
Gorean lifestyle make use of an entire imaginary world. The controlling player is often called the
top or ''dominant'' while the controlled individual is called the
bottom or ''submissive''. It can be considered dangerous and therefore a
safeword
In BDSM, a safeword is a code word, series of code words or other signal used by a person to communicate their physical or emotional state, typically when approaching, or crossing, a physical, emotional, or moral boundary. Some safewords are use ...
is advised to continue the safety of other(s) in such acts.
Examples of scenarios

Common scenarios include:
*Doctor/Nurse/Patient:
medical fetishism where the participants play the roles of doctor, nurse, or patient, e.g.,
enema play.
*Escort – Client: one partner assumes the role of paid escort for an encounter.
*Executive – Secretary: one partner assumes the role of a business executive while the other takes the role of their secretary.
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Handyman – Housewife: the
tradesman enters the housewife's home initially with the intent of carrying out plumbing/maintenance work.
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Master – Slave: the slave is required to comply with all demands of the master.
*Photographer – Model: this allows one partner to photograph the other as a precursor to sexual interaction.
*Stripper – Client: one participant performs a striptease for the other.
*Teacher – Student: the student dresses for the part and must do as they are told, or are punished.
*Circus master - Lion: the lion is given a demand and must do it for the sake of entertainment.
*Sex doll - Doll owner: the sex doll must stay still and be obedient.
*Pilot – flight attendant: One partner takes on the role of the pilot while the other plays a seductive flight attendant.
*Mechanic – client: While one partner plays the mechanic the other takes on the role of the client. The client tries to pay the mechanic via seduction.
*Soldier – girlfriend: A returning soldier is surprised by his girlfriend in a stunning lingerie set.
Other scenarios include:
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Ageplay: where an individual acts and/or treats another as if they were a different age. The practice can be regressive, in which the goal is to re-experience childhood, or sexual, recreating a sexual relationship with people of the pretended ages. Generally this can involve someone pretending to be younger than they actually are, but more rarely can involve assuming an older role.
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Animal roleplay: where a player is treated as a non-human animal such as a dog, pony, or cat.
*Authority figure/Misbehaving Adult: where a player takes on the role of an authority figure and blackmails or humiliates his or her partner into sexual activity.
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Clown
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History
The most ancient clowns have been found in ...
kink in the manner of coulrophilia between a young person and a performing
mime
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,
jester
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, or
circus clown
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Gender-play: where one or more players take on roles of another gender.
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Incest
Incest ( ) is human sexual activity between family members or close relatives. This typically includes sexual activity between people in consanguinity (blood relations), and sometimes those related by affinity ( marriage or stepfamily), ado ...
fantasy: also known as incest play, where two or more play the role of family members.
*Owner/Inanimate object: such as the bottom being
human furniture.
*Prison fetish: situational play set in a prison environment. Given real life prisons are same-sex communities, this fetish does lend itself to male on male or female on female activities and settings. Opposite gender play is also possible between inmates and guards or when the setting includes a co-ed facility/institution. Prison play is also an expansion of the uniform fetish by use of inmate, guard, and staff uniforms.
*Torturer/Captive prisoner: where one player is a captor who abuses the other, can also include
ravishment and kidnap scenarios.
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Uniform fetishism: one participant dresses in uniform (for instance as a school student,
cheerleader,
French maid, etc.), while the other participant plays an authority figure (e.g., a parent, teacher, coach, police officer). Can also include scenarios with both participants in uniforms.
*Supernatural Seductions: One participant takes the role of a predatory vampire, incubus, succubus or witch and seduces, enthralls or claims the other participant as their victim.
Sexologist Gloria Brame lists a number of these scenarios,
[ Brame, Gloria (2001). ''Come Hither! A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex'', Fusion Press, London, , pp. 140-148.] as does
Trevor Jacques.
[ Jacques, Trevor; Dr. Dale; Hamilton, Michael; and Sniffer (1993). ''On The Safe Edge: A Manual for BDSM Play'', WholeSM Publishing, Toronto, , , , , pp. 38-42.]
References
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