Ralph Duren May (February 17, 1972 – October 6, 2017) was an American stand-up comedian and actor, known for his extensive touring and comedy specials on multiple media platforms.
Early life
May was born in
Chattanooga, Tennessee
Chattanooga ( ) is a city in Hamilton County, Tennessee, United States, and its county seat. It is located along the Tennessee River and borders Georgia (U.S. state), Georgia to the south. With a population of 181,099 in 2020, it is Tennessee ...
, and raised in
Clarksville, Arkansas
Clarksville is a city in Johnson County, Arkansas, United States. As of the 2010 census the population was 9,178, up from 7,719 in 2000. As of 2018, the estimated population was 9,743. The city is the county seat of Johnson County. It is nestled ...
. He was the youngest of four children.
At age 17 he won a contest to open for
Sam Kinison, whom he considered his idol.
May explained, "The joke that he liked the best was talking about the drummer (
Rick Allen) from
Def Leppard
Def Leppard are an English Rock music, rock band formed in Sheffield in 1977. Since 1992, the band has consisted of Rick Savage (bass, backing vocals), Joe Elliott (lead vocals), Rick Allen (drummer), Rick Allen (drums), Phil Collen (guitar, ...
. 'After he lost his arm, I felt bad about listening to him. Not that I'm prejudiced against handicapped people, it's just the fact that if I applauded, it was insulting to him, like "Ha! Ha! Look at my use of two hands!"' Kinison suggested that May move to
Houston
Houston ( ) is the List of cities in Texas by population, most populous city in the U.S. state of Texas and in the Southern United States. Located in Southeast Texas near Galveston Bay and the Gulf of Mexico, it is the county seat, seat of ...
to further develop his comedy routine. May graduated from the
Kinder High School for the Performing and Visual Arts.
Career
In 2003, May was chosen to participate in the first season of ''
Last Comic Standing
''Last Comic Standing'' is an American reality television talent competition show on NBC that aired from June 1, 2003, to August 9, 2010, and again in 2014 and 2015. Each season a comedian from an initially large group of hopefuls was picked as ...
''. He finished in second place in the competition, with
Dat Phan winning first place. Afterwards, May appeared in comedy shows, such as ''
The Wayne Brady Show'' and ''
The Tonight Show with Jay Leno
''The Tonight Show with Jay Leno'' is an American television talk show broadcast by NBC. The show is the fourth and sixth installment of ''The Tonight Show''. Hosted by Jay Leno, it aired from May 25, 1992, to May 29, 2009, replacing ''The Ton ...
''. In 2005, he was the only white comedian on ''The Big Black Comedy Show'', which also featured
Mo'Nique
Monique Angela Hicks (née Imes; born December 11, 1967), known mononymously as Mo'Nique, is an American comedian and actress. She debuted as a member of The Queens of Comedy and earned recognition as a Stand-up comedy, stand-up comedian. In 2 ...
, Rodman, and Vince Morris.
In 2005, May released his first comedy album ''Just Correct''. He later recorded four
Comedy Central
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specials titled ''Girth of a Nation'' (2006), ''Prime Cut'' (2007), ''Austin-tatious'' (2008), and ''Too Big To Ignore'' (2012), as well as two
Netflix
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specials titled ''Imperfectly Yours'' (2013) and ''Unruly'' (2015). He appeared in ''For Da Love of Money''. May also performed at the "Gathering of the
Juggalos 2012".
Personal life
On July 3, 2005, May married comedian
Lahna Turner. The couple had two children: a daughter born in September 2007
and a son born in June 2009.
The couple filed for divorce in October 2015 and sought joint custody of their children, but their separation could never be finalized.
May struggled with
obesity
Obesity is a medical condition, considered by multiple organizations to be a disease, in which excess Adipose tissue, body fat has accumulated to such an extent that it can potentially have negative effects on health. People are classifi ...
throughout his life. He participated on VH1's
''Celebrity Fit Club'' and had
gastric bypass surgery in 2004, which lowered his weight to .
After a bout with
viral pneumonia
Viral pneumonia is a pneumonia caused by a virus. Pneumonia is an infection that causes inflammation in one or both lungs. The pulmonary alveoli fill with fluid or pus making it difficult to breathe. Pneumonia can be caused by bacteria, viruses, ...
on a cruise in October 2011, May lost 40 pounds.
The following month, he suffered a nearly-fatal
pulmonary embolism
Pulmonary embolism (PE) is a blockage of an pulmonary artery, artery in the lungs by a substance that has moved from elsewhere in the body through the bloodstream (embolism). Symptoms of a PE may include dyspnea, shortness of breath, chest pain ...
, where a
blood clot
A thrombus ( thrombi) is a solid or semisolid aggregate from constituents of the blood (platelets, fibrin, red blood cells, white blood cells) within the circulatory system during life. A blood clot is the final product of the blood coagulatio ...
from his leg became lodged in an
artery
An artery () is a blood vessel in humans and most other animals that takes oxygenated blood away from the heart in the systemic circulation to one or more parts of the body. Exceptions that carry deoxygenated blood are the pulmonary arteries in ...
.
In many interviews May discussed his grandmother, whom he credited with helping to care for him and his siblings when they were children. Speaking to the ''
Arkansas Times'' in 2012, May said, "Thank goodness for my grandmother, she was a hell of a woman. She was really beneficial, she kept us in a stature way above our means and made sure we were taken care of as far as clean clothes and shoes." His
Facebook
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bio also references his grandmother. "When I was a kid, my grandmother taught me how to crochet and how to quilt, and that's kind of how I do an act. I have
one-liners, I have dirty jokes, but I also have long stories that are 10 or 20 minutes long and the laughs come every eight seconds. It's a different set. And it's a different life than most people have led."
In an interview with the ''Arkansas Times'' in 2012, he discussed growing up in Clarksville, shedding light on some of the hardships he faced. He shared, "It was a hard life growing up. It was a similar story to a lot of people in Arkansas. My mom was a florist. I'm the youngest of four. My father and mother hated each other, and they took it out on us. She'd sue him for not paying child support, then he didn't pay, and that ended up costing us a lot."
In 2013, May and his wife Turner started a podcast together called ''Perfect 10''.
His memoir, ''This Might Get a Little Heavy'', was published posthumously in December 2017.
Death
May died on October 6, 2017, aged 45, after going into cardiac arrest. He had been battling
pneumonia
Pneumonia is an Inflammation, inflammatory condition of the lung primarily affecting the small air sacs known as Pulmonary alveolus, alveoli. Symptoms typically include some combination of Cough#Classification, productive or dry cough, ches ...
for several weeks and as a result, had canceled shows over the previous month. It was later published that, hours before his death, May was scheduled to do a meet-and-greet after his final performance at Harrah's in Las Vegas around midnight, but he had already shown signs of his deteriorating condition.
Filmography
Discography
*2005 ''Just Correct''
*2006 ''Girth of a Nation''
*2007 ''Prime Cut''
*2008 ''Austin-Tatious''
*2012 ''Too Big to Ignore''
*2013 ''Imperfectly Yours''
*2015 ''Unruly''
References
External links
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1972 births
2017 deaths
20th-century American comedians
21st-century American comedians
American male film actors
American male television actors
American stand-up comedians
Deaths from pneumonia in Nevada
High School for the Performing and Visual Arts alumni
Male actors from Arkansas
Male actors from Tennessee
Participants in American reality television series
People from Chattanooga, Tennessee
People from Clarksville, Arkansas
Comedians from Tennessee
Comedians from Arkansas