A proxy wedding or proxy marriage is a
wedding
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in which one or both of the individuals being united are not physically present, usually being represented instead by other persons (proxies). If both partners are absent, this is known as a double proxy wedding.
Marriage by proxy is usually resorted to in one of two situations: either a couple wish to marry but one or both partners cannot attend (for reasons such as military service, imprisonment, or travel restrictions); or a couple lives in a jurisdiction in which they cannot legally marry.
In most
jurisdiction
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s, the law requires that both parties to a marriage be physically present: proxy weddings are not recognized as
legally binding. Under the
English common law
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, however, if a proxy marriage is valid under the law of the place where the marriage was celebrated (the ''
lex loci celebrationis
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Gen ...
'') then it will be recognised as valid in
England and Wales
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.
History
Early Modern
Starting in the
Middle Ages
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, European monarchs and nobility sometimes married by proxy; by the end of the 19th century the practice had largely died out.
One of the first known proxy marriages in Western history was between
Clovis I King of the Franks and
Clotilde, in 496.
Some other examples are:
*
Frederick II, Holy Roman Emperor
Frederick II (, , , ; 26 December 1194 – 13 December 1250) was King of Sicily from 1198, King of Germany from 1212, King of Italy and Holy Roman Emperor from 1220 and King of Jerusalem from 1225. He was the son of Emperor Henry VI, Holy Roman ...
to
Isabella II of Jerusalem
Isabella II (12124 May 1228), sometimes erroneously called Yolanda, was Queen of Jerusalem from 1212 to 1228. She was the daughter of Queen Maria of Jerusalem and her husband, John of Brienne. By marriage to Frederick II, Holy Roman Emperor, Is ...
, in August 1225
*
Henry IV of England
Henry IV ( – 20 March 1413), also known as Henry Bolingbroke, was King of England from 1399 to 1413. Henry was the son of John of Gaunt, Duke of Lancaster (a son of King Edward III), and Blanche of Lancaster.
Henry was involved in the 1388 ...
to
Joanna of Navarre, on 2 April 2, 1402
*
Lorenzo de'Medici to
Clarice Orsini, in 1469
*
Catherine of Aragon
Catherine of Aragon (also spelt as Katherine,
historical Spanish: , now: ; 16 December 1485 – 7 January 1536) was List of English royal consorts, Queen of England as the Wives of Henry VIII, first wife of King Henry VIII from their marr ...
to
Prince Arthur Tudor, on 19 May 1499
*
Margaret Tudor
Margaret Tudor (28 November 1489 – 18 October 1541) was List of Scottish royal consorts, Queen of Scotland from 1503 until 1513 by marriage to King James IV. She then served as regent of Scotland during her son's minority, and fought to exte ...
to
James IV of Scotland
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, on 25 January 1502
*
Mary Tudor to
Louis XII of France
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, in 1514
*
Charles II, Duke of Savoy to
Infanta Beatrice of Portugal, in 1521
*
James VI of Scotland and I of England to
Anne of Denmark
Anne of Denmark (; 12 December 1574 – 2 March 1619) was the wife of King James VI and I. She was List of Scottish royal consorts, Queen of Scotland from their marriage on 20 August 1589 and List of English royal consorts, Queen of Engl ...
, on 20 August 1589
*
Anne of Austria
Anne of Austria (; ; born Ana María Mauricia; 22 September 1601 – 20 January 1666) was Queen of France from 1615 to 1643 by marriage to King Louis XIII. She was also Queen of Navarre until the kingdom's annexation into the French crown ...
to
Louis XIII of France
Louis XIII (; sometimes called the Just; 27 September 1601 – 14 May 1643) was King of France from 1610 until his death in 1643 and King of Navarre (as Louis II) from 1610 to 1620, when the crown of Navarre was merged with the French crown.
...
, on 18 October 1615
*
Louis XIV of France
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to
Maria Theresa of Spain, on 2 June 1660
*
Charles I of England
Charles I (19 November 1600 – 30 January 1649) was King of Kingdom of England, England, Kingdom of Scotland, Scotland, and Kingdom of Ireland, Ireland from 27 March 1625 until Execution of Charles I, his execution in 1649.
Charles was born ...
to
Henrietta Maria of France
Henrietta Maria of France ( French: ''Henriette Marie''; 25 November 1609 – 10 September 1669) was Queen of England, Scotland and Ireland from her marriage to King Charles I on 13 June 1625 until his execution on 30 January 1649. She was ...
, on 1 May 1625
*
Charles V, Duke of Lorraine to
Marie Jeanne Baptiste of Savoy-Nemours, in 1662. Lorraine soon refused to recognise the union and it was annulled.
*
James II of England
James II and VII (14 October 1633 – 16 September 1701) was King of England and Monarchy of Ireland, Ireland as James II and King of Scotland as James VII from the death of his elder brother, Charles II of England, Charles II, on 6 February 1 ...
to
Mary of Modena on 20 September 1673
*
Marie Antoinette
Marie Antoinette (; ; Maria Antonia Josefa Johanna; 2 November 1755 – 16 October 1793) was the last List of French royal consorts, queen of France before the French Revolution and the establishment of the French First Republic. She was the ...
to
Louis XVI of France
Louis XVI (Louis-Auguste; ; 23 August 1754 – 21 January 1793) was the last king of France before the fall of the monarchy during the French Revolution. The son of Louis, Dauphin of France (1729–1765), Louis, Dauphin of France (son and heir- ...
, on 19 April 1770
*
Napoleon I of France
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to Austrian Archduchess
Marie Louise, in 1810
*
Pedro I of Brazil
''Don (honorific), Dom'' Pedro I (12 October 1798 – 24 September 1834), known in Brazil and in Portugal as "the Liberator" () or "the Soldier King" () in Portugal, was the founder and List of monarchs of Brazil, first ruler of the Empire of ...
to
Maria Leopoldina of Austria
Don (honorific), Dona Maria Leopoldina of Austria (22 January 1797 – 11 December 1826) was the first Empress of Brazil as the wife of Emperor Dom (title), Dom Pedro I of Brazil, Pedro I from 12 October 1822 until her death. She was ...
, on 13 May 1817
In 1282,
Alfonso III of Aragon
Alfonso III (4 November 1265 – 18 June 1291), called the Liberal (''el Liberal'') and the Free (also "the Frank", from ''el Franc''), was king of Aragon and Valencia, and count of Barcelona (as ) from 1285 until his death. He conquered the ...
married
Eleanor of England (daughter of
Edward I of England
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) by proxy; she was represented at the wedding by the English Ambassador Sir
John de Vesci. The couple were legally married, but never met, as Alfonso's parents
Peter III of Aragon and
Constance II of Sicily were under papal interdict because of their claims to the throne of
Sicily
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. Edward refused to send his daughter from England as long as the interdict remained in place. Alfonso died in 1291 before the issue was resolved.
In 1490,
Maximilian of Habsburg (the future
Holy Roman Emperor
The Holy Roman Emperor, originally and officially the Emperor of the Romans (disambiguation), Emperor of the Romans (; ) during the Middle Ages, and also known as the Roman-German Emperor since the early modern period (; ), was the ruler and h ...
, Maximilian I) married
Anne of Brittany
Anne of Brittany (; 25/26 January 1477 – 9 January 1514) was reigning Duchess of Brittany from 1488 until her death, and Queen of France from 1491 to 1498 and from 1499 to her death. She was the only woman to have been queen consort of Fran ...
by proxy; he was represented at the wedding by
Wolfgang von Polheim. As part of the symbolism of the proxy wedding, on the wedding night Polheim went to bed with Anne but wore a full suit of armour, covering all but his right leg and hand. A sword was placed between them in the bed.
A
famous 17th-century painting by
Peter Paul Rubens
Sir Peter Paul Rubens ( ; ; 28 June 1577 – 30 May 1640) was a Flemish painting, Flemish artist and diplomat. He is considered the most influential artist of the Flemish Baroque painting, Flemish Baroque tradition. Rubens' highly charged comp ...
depicts the proxy marriage of
Marie de' Medici
Marie de' Medici (; ; 26 April 1575 – 3 July 1642) was Queen of France and Navarre as the second wife of King Henry IV. Marie served as regent of France between 1610 and 1617 during the minority of her son Louis XIII. Her mandate as rege ...
in 1600.
There are also examples of proxy marriages amongst South Asian royalty, such as
Mirza Muhammad Sultan to Padishah Bibi, on 13 April 1656. In 1530,
Maharana Ratan Singh II of Mewar Kingdom married a daughter of
Raja Prithviraj Singh I of Amber. Singh's sword had been married as a proxy representing him, but the wedding was kept a secret.
Hada prince Surajmal of
Bundi was unaware and obtained her as his wife, causing unintended offence.
19th century
The
''Code'' ''Napoléon'' in
Napoleonic France
The First French Empire or French Empire (; ), also known as Napoleonic France, was the empire ruled by Napoleon Bonaparte, who established French hegemony over much of continental Europe at the beginning of the 19th century. It lasted from ...
and
Belgium
Belgium, officially the Kingdom of Belgium, is a country in Northwestern Europe. Situated in a coastal lowland region known as the Low Countries, it is bordered by the Netherlands to the north, Germany to the east, Luxembourg to the southeas ...
did not prohibit marriage by proxy in express terms. Article 75 of the Code required the officer of the civil status to read to the parties documents required by law concerning the mutual rights and duties of husband and wife. French and Belgian writers maintained that in the absence of an express provision in the Code declaring a marriage by proxy void that a marriage so celebrated before an officer of the civil status must be deemed valid.
In 19th century
Italy
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, marriage by proxy was prohibited except with respect to the King and members of the Italian royal family.
20th century
In the early 20th century, many
Japanese,
Okinawan, and
Korean bachelors who had emigrated to the
United States of America
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found wives from their home country through family networks, with the help of a go-between (called a ''nakōdo'' (仲人) in Japanese and a ''jungmae jaeng-i'' in Korean), and the exchange of photographs. The women became known as "
picture brides". A proxy marriage would be performed with a stand in for the groom, which was considered official in the home countries. As soon as the women arrived in America, the couples were often compelled to marry again with mass wedding ceremonies held at the dock or in hotels. Between 1907 and 1923, 14,276 Japanese picture brides and 951 Korean picture brides arrived in
Hawaii
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. The Japanese government stopped issuing passports to picture brides in the 1920s.
During the
First and
Second World War
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s, there were many proxy marriages between soldiers serving at the front and women back at home; they often participated in the wedding ceremony via telephone. During
World War I
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, proxy marriage was permitted by law in Belgium (from 30 May 1916),
Czechoslovakia
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,
France
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(from 4 April 1915),
Germany
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, Italy (from 24 June 1915) and
Norway
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.
During the
World War 2, proxy marriages were common in the United States,
United Kingdom
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,
Soviet Union
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and
Nazi Germany
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where obtaining
leave to return home and marry was difficult or impossible. During this period,
Kansas City, Kansas
Kansas City (commonly known as KCK) is the third-most populous city in the U.S. state of Kansas and the county seat of Wyandotte County. It is an inner suburb of the older and more populous Kansas City, Missouri, after which it is named. As ...
, in particular was known for its permissive proxy-marriage laws; one lawyer in the city helped to arrange 39 proxy weddings.
In the United Kingdom, proxy marriage was argued for in the
House of Commons
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by
Jennie Adamson in 1943.
In
Italy
Italy, officially the Italian Republic, is a country in Southern Europe, Southern and Western Europe, Western Europe. It consists of Italian Peninsula, a peninsula that extends into the Mediterranean Sea, with the Alps on its northern land b ...
, between 1945 and 1976, 12,000 women were married by proxy to
Italian Australian men; they would then travel to Australia to meet their new husbands. This was encouraged by the Australian church and government to address an imbalance between the sexes.
Today
A unique "space wedding" took place on August 10, 2003, when Ekaterina Dmitriev, an American citizen living in the U.S. state of
Texas
Texas ( , ; or ) is the most populous U.S. state, state in the South Central United States, South Central region of the United States. It borders Louisiana to the east, Arkansas to the northeast, Oklahoma to the north, New Mexico to the we ...
, where the ceremony was performed, was married by proxy to
Yuri Malenchenko, a
cosmonaut
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who was
orbit
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ing the Earth in the
International Space Station
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at the time.
, various Internet sites were offering to arrange proxy and double-proxy marriages for a fee, although the service can generally be set up by any lawyer in a jurisdiction that permits proxy marriage.
Video conferencing
Videotelephony (also known as videoconferencing or video calling) is the use of audio signal, audio and video for simultaneous two-way communication. Today, videotelephony is widespread. There are many terms to refer to videotelephony. ''Vide ...
allows couples to experience the ceremony together.
Legality
France
Article 146 of the
French Civil Code does not allow for proxy marriages for the purposes of the French law of marriage.
Gambia
Proxy marriage is legal in
The Gambia
The Gambia, officially the Republic of The Gambia, is a country in West Africa. Geographically, The Gambia is the List of African countries by area, smallest country in continental Africa; it is surrounded by Senegal on all sides except for ...
under
sharia law
Sharia, Sharī'ah, Shari'a, or Shariah () is a body of religious law that forms a part of the Islamic tradition based on scriptures of Islam, particularly the Qur'an and hadith. In Islamic terminology ''sharīʿah'' refers to immutable, inta ...
.
Germany
Germany
Germany, officially the Federal Republic of Germany, is a country in Central Europe. It lies between the Baltic Sea and the North Sea to the north and the Alps to the south. Its sixteen States of Germany, constituent states have a total popu ...
does not allow proxy marriages within its jurisdiction (§ 1311
BGB). It recognizes proxy marriages contracted elsewhere where this is possible, subject to the usual rules of
private international law
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, unless the foreign law should be incompatible with German
ordre public (art. 6 ''EGBGB''): this is not the case with the marriage by proxy ''per se'', but would be if, e.g., the proxy was held responsible for ''choosing'' the spouse without further asking rather than only contracting a marriage with a given spouse.
India
Proxy marriages via
video link are legal in
India
India, officially the Republic of India, is a country in South Asia. It is the List of countries and dependencies by area, seventh-largest country by area; the List of countries by population (United Nations), most populous country since ...
, including when the parties are in separate countries, provided witnesses are present.
Pakistan
Proxy marriages, including via the telephone, are legal in
Pakistan
Pakistan, officially the Islamic Republic of Pakistan, is a country in South Asia. It is the List of countries and dependencies by population, fifth-most populous country, with a population of over 241.5 million, having the Islam by country# ...
. However, witnesses must be present and the marriage correctly registered.
United Kingdom
In 2014, it was reported that "proxy marriage misuse" was common in the UK, in which an
EU citizen and non-EU citizen, both living in the UK, participated in a proxy marriage in an outside country. These were
sham marriages which allowed one spouse to gain EU citizenship. This was particularly the case with
''nikah'' marriages in Islam, which are conducted under
Sharia (Islamic) law.
Citizens Advice Scotland warns that "it may be extremely difficult to prove that a marriage by proxy is a valid marriage, both legally and for claiming
benefits."
United States
In the
United States
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, proxy marriages are provided for in law or by customary practice in
Texas
Texas ( , ; or ) is the most populous U.S. state, state in the South Central United States, South Central region of the United States. It borders Louisiana to the east, Arkansas to the northeast, Oklahoma to the north, New Mexico to the we ...
,
Colorado
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,
Kansas
Kansas ( ) is a landlocked U.S. state, state in the Midwestern United States, Midwestern region of the United States. It borders Nebraska to the north; Missouri to the east; Oklahoma to the south; and Colorado to the west. Kansas is named a ...
, and
Montana
Montana ( ) is a landlocked U.S. state, state in the Mountain states, Mountain West subregion of the Western United States. It is bordered by Idaho to the west, North Dakota to the east, South Dakota to the southeast, Wyoming to the south, an ...
. Of these, Montana is the only state that allows double-proxy marriage.
[Section 40-1-301]
. ''Montana Code Annotated 2015''. Montana Legislative Services. Accessed on May 19, 2016. Proxy marriages cannot be
solemnized in any other U.S. states.
In 1924, a
federal court recognized the proxy marriage of a resident of
Portugal
Portugal, officially the Portuguese Republic, is a country on the Iberian Peninsula in Southwestern Europe. Featuring Cabo da Roca, the westernmost point in continental Europe, Portugal borders Spain to its north and east, with which it share ...
, where proxy marriages were recognized at the time, and a resident of Pennsylvania, where
common-law marriage
Common-law marriage, also known as non-ceremonial marriage, marriage, informal marriage, de facto marriage, more uxorio or marriage by habit and repute, is a marriage that results from the parties' agreement to consider themselves married, follo ...
s could be contracted at the time.
The Portuguese woman was allowed to
immigrate to the United States on account of the marriage, whereas she would have been inadmissible otherwise due to being illiterate.
Internet marriages have increased among some U.S. immigrant communities in recent years.
During the early 1900s, United States proxy marriages increased significantly when many
Japanese picture brides arrived at
Angel Island, California. Since the early 20th century, it has been most commonly used in the United States for marriages where one partner is a member of the military on
active duty
Active duty, in contrast to reserve duty, is a full-time occupation as part of a military force.
Indian
The Indian Armed Forces are considered to be one of the largest active service forces in the world, with almost 1.42 million Active Standin ...
. In California, proxy marriage is only available to deployed military personnel. In Montana, a double-proxy marriage is available if at least one partner is either on active military duty or is a Montana resident.
In the United States, if a proxy marriage has been performed in a state that legally allows it, many states will recognize it fully or will recognize it as a common law marriage. An exception to this is the state of
Iowa
Iowa ( ) is a U.S. state, state in the upper Midwestern United States, Midwestern region of the United States. It borders the Mississippi River to the east and the Missouri River and Big Sioux River to the west; Wisconsin to the northeast, Ill ...
, where it is completely unrecognized.
Religion
Catholicism
Catholic canon law
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permits marriage by proxy, but requires officiants to receive authorization from the local
ordinary before proceeding.
Judaism
Jewish law
''Halakha'' ( ; , ), also transliterated as ''halacha'', ''halakhah'', and ''halocho'' ( ), is the collective body of Jewish religious laws that are derived from the Written and Oral Torah. ''Halakha'' is based on biblical commandments ('' mit ...
permits marriage by proxy. The process includes the groom sending the worth of a small denominational coin (שוה פרוטה), to the bride as discussed in Tractate
Kiddushin Second Chapter. All
Rabbi
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s agree that it is preferable to betroth in person based on the dictum "It is more fitting that the
mitzva be performed by the man himself than by means of his agent".
הָאִישׁ מְקַדֵּשׁ בּוֹ וּבִשְׁלוּחוֹ הָאִשָּׁה מִתְקַדֶּשֶׁת בָּהּ וּבִשְׁלוּחָהּ הָאִישׁ מְקַדֵּשׁ אֶת בִּתּוֹ כְּשֶׁהִיא נַעֲרָה בּוֹ וּבִשְׁלוּחוֹ
Translation: A man can betroth a woman by himself or by means of his agent. Similarly, a woman can become betrothed by herself or by means of her agent. A man can betroth his daughter to a man when she is a young woman, either by himself or by means of his agent.
Islam
''Nikah'' marriages in Islam may be permitted by proxy, simply by both parties (or representatives on their behalf) exchanging declarations.
Hinduism
While not explicitly stated, a proxy marriage is generally not allowed in
Hindu
Hindus (; ; also known as Sanātanīs) are people who religiously adhere to Hinduism, also known by its endonym Sanātana Dharma. Jeffery D. Long (2007), A Vision for Hinduism, IB Tauris, , pp. 35–37 Historically, the term has also be ...
cultures due to the
Saptapadi rite, where the bride and groom walk seven steps together in unison, with each step representing a
vow
A vow ( Lat. ''votum'', vow, promise; see vote) is a promise or oath. A vow is used as a promise that is solemn rather than casual.
Marriage vows
Marriage vows are binding promises each partner in a couple makes to the other during a weddin ...
.
Under the circumstances of a proxy marriage, this step would not be possible.
References
External links
Operation 'I Do': Moody AFB Attorneys Help Couple Tie KnotErnest G. Lorenzen, "Marriage By Proxy and the Conflict of Laws" (1932)Double Proxy Marriage in Montana (limited to Montana residents and active duty military personnel, all branches)Online Nikah Service (Worldwide)
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