James T. Rodemeyer (March 21, 1997 - September 18, 2011) was an American teenager known for his
activism
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against
homophobia
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and his videos on
YouTube
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to help victims of homophobic
bullying
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.
Personal life
Jamey Rodemeyer lived with his parents, Tim and Tracy Rodemeyer, and his older sister Alyssa in their home near
Buffalo, New York
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. He had attended
Heim Middle School in the past and was a
freshman
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A ...
at
Williamsville North High School
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at the time of his death.
He was open about his homosexuality, and faced severe bullying as a result of it.
Rodemeyer's inspiration to help others came from
Lady Gaga
Stefani Joanne Angelina Germanotta ( ; born March 28, 1986), known professionally as Lady Gaga, is an American singer, songwriter, and actress. She is known for her image reinventions and musical versatility. Gaga began performing as a teenag ...
, whom he admired most. He often referred to her in his videos, and quoted her lyrics to provide guidance to others.
Activism
Rodemeyer encountered bullying throughout middle school because of his
sexuality
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. Anonymously posted comments on his
Formspring
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As of August 1, 2015, t ...
account included hate messages such as, "JAMIE IS STUPID, GAY, FAT ANND UGLY. HE MUST DIE!" or "I wouldn't care if you died. No one would. So just do it :) It would make everyone WAY more happier!". Despite this, he used his experiences to make videos on
YouTube
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under the username xgothemo99xx to help others who were experiencing similar situations. He also made a video for the "
It Gets Better Project
It Gets Better is an Internet-based 501(c)3 nonprofit with a mission to uplift, empower, and connect lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ+) youth around the globe. It was founded in the United States by gay activist, author, m ...
", a website dedicated to preventing teen suicide.
Death
Rodemeyer was found dead by his older sister Alyssa in the backyard on the morning of September 18, 2011, in an apparent
suicide
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by hanging. Before his death, he posted a final update on
Twitter
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directed to
Lady Gaga
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. The tweet read, "@ladygaga bye mother monster, thank you for all you have done, paws up forever".
Aftermath
The
Amherst, New York
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The second ...
police department launched a criminal investigation after Rodemeyer's death, assisted by
Erie County district attorney Frank Sedita. The investigation lasted nine weeks, and included analysis of Jamey's home computer and
mobile phone
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records. Although possible evidence of
criminal harassment was found, these incidents either had insufficient evidence to prosecute or were expired beyond the
statute of limitations
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. The investigation concluded with no charges filed.
News of Rodemeyer's death resulted in outrage by supporters worldwide. Following his death, Tim and Tracy Rodemeyer were interviewed by news media about their son and his struggles against bullying. Both parents took the opportunity to promote peace and equality in the hope of preventing occurrences similar to this.
In an interview with
Ann Curry
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on ''
The Today Show
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'' Rodemeyer's parents said that they, their daughter and son were still being bullied, even after his suicide.
When his sister attended a school homecoming dance, Jamey's friends began chanting his name in support when a Lady Gaga song began playing. As a result, the very same bullies at the dance began chanting that they were glad he was dead.
Upon learning of his death, Lady Gaga stated that she was extremely upset, spending her days "reflecting, crying and yelling." She went on to dedicate her song "
Hair" to Rodemeyer during a performance at the
iHeartRadio
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music festival at the MGM Grand Hotel in
Las Vegas
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, saying, "I wrote this record about how your identity is really all you've got when you're in school...so tonight, Jamey, I know you're up there looking at us and you're not a victim. You're a lesson to all of us. I know it's a bit of a downer, but sometimes the right thing is more important than the music." Lady Gaga later met with President
Barack Obama
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to discuss what his administration would do to prevent bullying in schools.
Also in response to his death, reigning
Miss New York
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In the fall of 2018, the Miss America Organization terminated the Miss New York organization's license ...
Kaitlin Monte founded an online petition to bring the issue of cyberbullying (known as "Jamey's Law") to New York legislators. Shortly after, State Senator
Jeffrey D. Klein proposed new cyberbullying legislation. The two joined to launch the New York Cyberbully Census.
In October 2011, actor
Zachary Quinto
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noted Rodemeyer's death as the genesis of his decision to
come out publicly as gay, saying on his website "...but in light of Jamey's death – it became clear to me in an instant that living a gay life without publicly acknowledging it – is simply not enough to make any significant contribution to the immense work that lies ahead on the road to complete equality".
In response to Quinto's coming out (and in reaction to gay suicides caused by bullying),
Dan Kloeffler of
ABC News Now
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also came out.
That same month another teenager,
Jamie Hubley, was reported to have died by suicide for the same reason. While he never explicitly talked about Rodemeyer, comparisons have been drawn.
The Fox TV show ''
Glee
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Glee may also refer to:
* Glee (music), a type of English choral music
* ''Glee'' (TV series), an American musical comedy-drama TV series, and related media created by Ryan Murphy
* ''Glee'' (Bran Van 30 ...
'' referred to Rodemeyer when Finn (
Cory Monteith
Cory Allan Michael Monteith (; May 11, 1982 July 13, 2013) was a Canadian actor and musician who played Finn Hudson on the Fox television series ''Glee''. As an actor based in British Columbia, Monteith had minor roles on television series befor ...
) talked to Santana (
Naya Rivera
Naya Marie Rivera (; January 12, 1987July 8, 2020) was an American actress, singer, and model. Recognized for her work on the popular musical comedy-drama series ''Glee'', she received various awards, including a Screen Actors Guild Award and n ...
) about gay suicide in the episode "
I Kissed a Girl
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", and in the episode "
On My Way" when David Karofsky (
Max Adler), a gay student, tries to kill himself by hanging as a result of the bullying that had befallen him because of his sexuality.
References
External links
*
It Gets Better, I promise!– the video Jamey Rodemeyer made for the "It Gets Better" project
*
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