
Handfasting is a traditional practice that, depending on the term's usage, may define an
unofficiated wedding (in which a couple marries without an
officiant, usually with the intent of later undergoing a second wedding with an officiant), a
betrothal
An engagement or betrothal is the period of time between the declaration of acceptance of a marriage proposal and the marriage itself (which is typically but not always commenced with a wedding). During this period, a couple is said to be ''fi ...
(an engagement in which a couple has formally promised to wed, and which can be broken only through divorce), or a
temporary wedding (in which a couple makes an intentionally temporary marriage commitment). The phrase refers to the making fast of a pledge by the
shaking or joining of hands.
The terminology and practice are especially associated with Germanic peoples, including the
English and
Norse, as well as the Scots. As a form of betrothal or unofficiated wedding, handfasting was common up through
Tudor England; as a form of temporary marriage, it was practiced in 17th-century Scotland and has been revived in
Neopaganism
Modern paganism, also known as contemporary paganism and neopaganism, spans a range of new religious movements variously influenced by the Paganism, beliefs of pre-modern peoples across Europe, North Africa, and the Near East. Despite some comm ...
, though misattributed as Celtic rather than Danish and Old English.
Sometimes the term is also used synonymously with "
wedding
A wedding is a ceremony in which two people are united in marriage. Wedding traditions and customs vary greatly between cultures, ethnicity, ethnicities, Race (human categorization), races, religions, Religious denomination, denominations, Cou ...
" or "
marriage
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" among Neopagans to avoid perceived non-Pagan religious connotations associated with those terms. It is also used, apparently ahistorically, to refer to an alleged pre-Christian practice of symbolically fastening or wrapping the hands of a couple together during the wedding ceremony.
Etymology
The verb ''to handfast'' in the sense of "to formally promise, to make a contract" is recorded for
Late Old English, especially in the context of a contract of marriage. The derived ''handfasting'' as for a ceremony of engagement or betrothal, is recorded in
Early Modern English
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. The term was presumably loaned into English from
Old Norse
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'' handfesta'' "to strike a bargain by joining hands"; there are also comparanda from the
Ingvaeonic languages:
Old Frisian
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''hondfestinge'' and
Middle Low German
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''hantvestinge''. The term is derived from the verb ''to handfast'', used in
Middle to Early Modern English for the making of a contract.
[, n., v. and adj. and , v. and n. "Old Norse hand-festa to strike a bargain by joining hands, to pledge, betroth" The earliest cited English use in connection with marital status is from a manuscript of c. 1200, when Mary is described as "handfast (to) a good man called Joseph". "?c1200 Ormulum (Burchfield transcript) l. 2389 "Ȝho wass hanndfesst an god mann Þatt iosæp wass ȝehatenn."] In modern Dutch, "handvest" is the term for "pact" or "charter" (e.g., "Atlantisch handvest", "Handvest der Verenigde Naties"); cf. also the Italian loan word
manifesto
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in English.
Medieval and Tudor England
The
Fourth Lateran Council
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(1215) forbade clandestine marriage, and required marriages to be publicly announced in churches by priests. In the sixteenth century, the
Council of Trent
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legislated more specific requirements, such as the presence of a priest and two witnesses, as well as promulgation of the marriage announcement thirty days prior to the ceremony. These laws did not extend to the regions affected by the Protestant
Reformation
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. In England, clergy performed many clandestine marriages, such as so-called
Fleet Marriage, which were held legally valid; and in
Scotland
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, unsolemnised
common-law marriage
Common-law marriage, also known as non-ceremonial marriage, marriage, informal marriage, de facto marriage, more uxorio or marriage by habit and repute, is a marriage that results from the parties' agreement to consider themselves married, follo ...
was still valid.
From about the 12th to the 17th century, "handfasting" in England was simply a term for "engagement to be married", or a ceremony held on the occasion of such a contract, usually about a month prior to a church wedding, at which the marrying couple formally declared that each accepted the other as spouse. Handfasting was legally binding: as soon as the couple made their vows to each other they were validly married. It was not a temporary arrangement. Just as with church weddings of the period, the union which handfasting created could only be dissolved by death. English legal authorities held that even if not followed by intercourse, handfasting was as binding as any vow taken in church before a priest.
During handfasting, the man and woman, in turn, would take the other by the right hand and declare aloud that they there and then accepted each other as husband and wife. The words might vary but traditionally consisted of a simple formula such as "I (Name) take thee (Name) to my wedded husband/wife, till death us depart, and thereto I plight thee my troth".
Because of this, handfasting was also known in England as "troth-plight".
Gifts were often exchanged, especially rings: a gold coin broken in half between the couple was also common. Other tokens recorded include gloves, a crimson ribbon tied in a knot, and even a silver toothpick.
Handfasting might take place anywhere, indoors or out.
It was frequently in the home of the bride, but according to records handfastings also took place in taverns, in an orchard and even on horseback. The presence of a credible witness or witnesses was usual.
For much of the relevant period, church courts dealt with marital matters.
Ecclesiastical law
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recognised two forms of handfasting, ''sponsalia per verba de praesenti'' and ''sponsalia per verba de futuro''. In ''sponsalia de praesenti'', the most usual form, the couple declared they there and then accepted each other as man and wife. The ''
sponsalia de futuro'' form was less binding, as the couple took hands only to declare their intention to marry each other at some future date. The latter was closer to a modern engagement and could, in theory, be ended with the consent of both parties – but only providing intercourse had not occurred. If intercourse did take place, then the ''sponsalia de futuro'' "was automatically converted into ''de iure'' marriage".
Despite the validity of handfasting, it was expected to be solemnised by a church wedding fairly soon afterwards. Penalties might follow for those who did not comply. Ideally the couple were also supposed to refrain from intercourse until then.
Complaints by preachers suggest that they often did not wait,
but at least until the early 1600s the common attitude to this kind of anticipatory behaviour seems to have been lenient.
Handfasting remained an acceptable way of marrying in England throughout the
Middle Ages
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but declined in the early modern period. In some circumstances handfasting was open to abuse, with persons who had undergone "troth-plight" occasionally refusing to proceed to a church wedding, creating ambiguity about their former betrothed's marital status.
Shakespeare
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negotiated and witnessed a handfasting in 1604, and was called as a witness in the suit ''
Bellott v Mountjoy'' about the dowry in 1612. Historians speculate that his own marriage to
Anne Hathaway
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was so conducted when he was a young man in 1582, as the practice still had credence in Warwickshire at the time.
After the beginning of the 17th century, gradual changes in English law meant the presence of an officiating priest or magistrate became necessary for a marriage to be legal. Finally the
1753 Marriage Act, aimed at suppressing clandestine marriages by introducing more stringent conditions for validity, effectively ended the handfasting custom in England.
Early modern Scotland
In February 1539
Marie Pieris, a French lady-in-waiting to
Mary of Guise, the consort of
James V of Scotland
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, was married by handfasting to
Lord Seton at
Falkland Palace. This ceremony was recorded in the royal accounts for the payment to an
apothecary
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for his work on the day of "Lord Seytounis handfasting".
The
Scottish Hebrides, particularly in the
Isle of Skye
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, show some records of 'Handfast" or "left-handed" marriage occurring in the late 1600s, when the Gaelic scholar
Martin Martin
Martin Martin (Scottish Gaelic: Màrtainn MacGilleMhàrtainn) (–9 October 1718) was a Scotland, Scottish writer best known for his work ''A Description of the Western Islands of Scotland (Martin), A Description of the Western Islands of Scotlan ...
noted, "It was an ancient custom in the Isles that a man take a maid as his wife and keep her for the space of a year without marrying her; and if she pleased him all the while, he married her at the end of the year and legitimatised her children; but if he did not love her, he returned her to her parents."
[ (2nd ed., 1716)]
The most disastrous war fought between the MacLeods and MacDonalds of Skye culminated in the
Battle of Coire Na Creiche when Donald Gorm Mor, who handfasted
or a year and a daywith Margaret MacLeod, a sister of
Rory Mor of
Dunvegan, ignominiously expelled his mistress from Duntulm. It is probable that it was as a result of this war that
Lord Ochiltree's Committee, which formed the
Statutes of Iona in 1609 and the Regulations for the Chiefs in 1616, was induced to insert a clause in the Statutes of Iona by which "marriages contracted for several
rchaic definition 'single'years" were prohibited; and any who might disregard this regulation were to be "punished as fornicators".
By the 18th century, the
Kirk of Scotland no longer recognised marriages formed by mutual consent and subsequent sexual intercourse, even though the Scottish civil authorities did. To minimise any resulting legal actions, the ceremony was to be performed in public. This situation persisted until 1939, when Scottish marriage laws were reformed by the
Marriage (Scotland) Act 1939 and handfasting was no longer recognised.
The existence of handfasting as a distinct form of "trial marriage" was doubted by A. E. Anton, in ''Handfasting in Scotland'' (1958). In the article, he asserted that the first reference to such a practice is by
Thomas Pennant
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As a naturalist he had ...
in his 1790 ''Tour in Scotland'',
that this report had been taken at face value throughout the 19th century, and was perpetuated in
Walter Scott
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's 1820 novel ''
The Monastery
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Scot ...
''. However, the Pennant claim in 1790 was not the first time this had been discussed or put to print, as the Martin Martin texts predate Pennant by almost 100 years.
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Neopaganism
The term "handfasting" or "hand-fasting" was appropriated into modern Celtic neopaganism and Wicca
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for wedding ceremonies from at least the late 1960s, apparently first used in print by Hans Holzer.
Handfasting was mentioned in the 1980 Jim Morrison biography '' No One Here Gets Out Alive'' and again in the 1991 film ''The Doors
The Doors were an American rock band formed in Los Angeles in 1965, comprising vocalist Jim Morrison, keyboardist Ray Manzarek, guitarist Robby Krieger and drummer John Densmore. They were among the most influential and controversial rock acts ...
'', where a version of the real 1970 handfasting ceremony of Morrison and Patricia Kennealy was depicted (with the actual Kennealy-Morrison portraying the Celtic neopagan priestess).
Handfasting ribbon
The term has entered the English-speaking mainstream, most likely from neopagan wedding ceremonies during the early 2000s, often erroneously being described as "pre-Christian" by wedding planners. Evidence that the term "handfasting" had been re-interpreted as describing this ceremony specifically is found in the later 2000s, e.g. "handfasting—the blessed marriage rite in which the hands of you and your beloved are wrapped in ribbon as you 'tie the knot'."
By the 2010s, "handfasting ceremonies" were on offer by commercial wedding organizers and had mostly lost their neopagan association (apart from occasional claims that attributes the ceremony to the "ancient Celts"). The term "handfasting ribbon" appears from about 2005.Handfasting ribbon, finished
(wormspit.com) 4 July 2005; Jacquelyn Frank, ''Jacob: The Nightwalkers'', Zebra Books, 2006, p. 320.
See also
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Betrothal
An engagement or betrothal is the period of time between the declaration of acceptance of a marriage proposal and the marriage itself (which is typically but not always commenced with a wedding). During this period, a couple is said to be ''fi ...
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Broomstick marriage
Jumping the broom (or jumping the besom) is a phrase and custom relating to a wedding ceremony in which the couple jumps over a broom. It is most widespread among African Americans and Black Canadians, popularized during the 1970s by the novel ...
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Civil marriage
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Common-law marriage
Common-law marriage, also known as non-ceremonial marriage, marriage, informal marriage, de facto marriage, more uxorio or marriage by habit and repute, is a marriage that results from the parties' agreement to consider themselves married, follo ...
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Elopement
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Self-uniting marriage
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Temporary marriage
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Marriage law
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Black wedding
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White wedding
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The term originates from the white colour of the wedding dress, popularised by Victorian era elites after Queen Victoria ...
Notes
References
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* Stearns, Peter N. Encyclopedia of European Social History: from 1350 to 2000. Scribner, 2001.
* Dolan, Frances E. Renaissance Quarterly, vol. 50, no. 2, 1997, pp. 653–655. JSTOR, www.jstor.org/stable/3039244.
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