Betsy Drake (September 11, 1923 – October 27, 2015) was an American actress, writer, and psychotherapist. She was the third wife of actor
Cary Grant
Cary Grant (born Archibald Alec Leach; January 18, 1904November 29, 1986) was an English and American actor. Known for his blended British and American accent, debonair demeanor, lighthearted approach to acting, and sense of comic timing, he ...
.
Early life and education
Betsy Drake, the eldest child of two American expatriates, was born in
Paris
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. Her grandfather,
Tracy Drake, and his brother had opened the
Drake Hotel in Chicago on New Year's Eve in 1920. The Drakes lost their money in the
1929 stock-market crash. As a result, she returned to the U.S. on the with her parents, brothers, and a nanny. She grew up in Chicago;
Westport, Connecticut
Westport is a town in Fairfield County, Connecticut, United States. Located in the Gold Coast (Connecticut), Gold Coast along the Long Island Sound, it is northeast of New York City and is part of the Western Connecticut Planning Region, Connec ...
;
Washington, DC
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;
Virginia
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;
North Carolina
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; and New York City. She went to 12 different schools, both private and public, before concentrating on theater and acting at
National Park Seminary.
Career

Drake began looking for work as an actress in New York City, supporting herself by working as a Conover model. She met the playwright
Horton Foote
Albert Horton Foote Jr. (March 14, 1916March 4, 2009) was an American playwright and screenwriter. He received Academy Awards for ''To Kill a Mockingbird'', which was adapted from the 1960 novel of the same name by Harper Lee, and the film, '' ...
, who offered her a job as an
understudy
In theatre, an understudy, referred to in opera as cover or covering, is a performer who learns the lines and blocking or choreography of a regular actor, actress, or other performer in a play. Should the regular actor or actress be unable to ap ...
in his play ''Only the Heart'', which enabled her to join the
Actors' Equity Association
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and thus become a professional actress.
After coming to the attention of the producer
Hal Wallis, Drake was pressured by her agent to sign a Hollywood contract. She hated Hollywood and managed to be released from the contract by declaring herself insane. She returned to New York City and, in 1947, read for the director
Elia Kazan
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for the lead role in the London company of the play ''
Deep Are the Roots''. Later that year, Drake was selected by Kazan as one of the founding members of the
Actors Studio
The Actors Studio is a membership organization for professional actors, theatre directors and playwrights located on West 44th Street in Hell's Kitchen in New York City.
The studio is best known for its work refining and teaching method actin ...
.
Cary Grant spotted her in 1947 while she was performing in London. The two, who both happened to be returning to the U.S. on the , struck up an instant rapport. At the insistence of Grant, Drake was subsequently signed to a
film contract by
RKO Pictures
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and
David Selznick, where she appeared, opposite Grant, in her first film, the
romantic comedy
Romantic comedy (also known as romcom or rom-com) is a sub-genre of comedy and Romance novel, romance fiction, focusing on lighthearted, humorous plot lines centered on romantic ideas, such as how true love is able to surmount all obstacles. Ro ...
''
Every Girl Should Be Married
''Every Girl Should Be Married'' is a 1948 American romantic comedy film directed by Don Hartman and starring Cary Grant, Betsy Drake and Franchot Tone. Grant and Drake married a year after the film's release.
Plot
Department store sales ...
'' (1948). ''New York Times'' film critic
Bosley Crowther
Francis Bosley Crowther Jr. (July 13, 1905 – March 7, 1981) was an American journalist, writer, and film critic for ''The New York Times'' for 27 years. His work helped shape the careers of many actors, directors and screenwriters, though some ...
called her performance “foxily amusing”.
On Christmas Day 1949, Drake and Grant married in a private ceremony organized by Grant's best man,
Howard Hughes
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, and chose a low-key, introspective private life. They delved into
transcendentalism
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,
mysticism
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, and
yoga
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. She took up causes including the plight of homeless children in Los Angeles.
[ In 1954, they bought the "Las Palomas" estate in the Movie Colony neighborhood of ]Palm Springs, California
Palm Springs (Cahuilla language, Cahuilla: ''Séc-he'') is a desert resort city in Riverside County, California, United States, within the Colorado Desert's Coachella Valley. The city covers approximately , making it the largest city in Rivers ...
.
The couple co-starred in the radio series ''Mr. and Mrs. Blandings'' (1951). They appeared together in the comedy drama
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'' Room for One More'' (1952), and Drake appeared in leading roles in England and the U.S., and a supporting role in the satiric comedy film ''Will Success Spoil Rock Hunter?
''Will Success Spoil Rock Hunter?'' is a 1957 American satire (film and television), satirical comedy film starring Jayne Mansfield and Tony Randall, with Betsy Drake, Joan Blondell, John Williams (actor), John Williams, Henry Jones (actor), Hen ...
'' (1957).
Drake wrote the original script for the film ''Houseboat
A houseboat is a boat that has been designed or modified to be used primarily for regular dwelling. Most houseboats are not motorized, as they are usually moored or kept stationary, fixed at a Berth (moorings), berth, and often tethered to ...
'' (1958) under a pseudonym, basing it on an unpublished story she had written. Starring Grant, Drake anticipated co-starring in the film. Grant, however, who began an affair with Sophia Loren
Sofia Costanza Brigida Villani Scicolone (; born 20 September 1934), known professionally as Sophia Loren ( , ), is an Italian actress, active in her native country and the United States. With a career spanning over 70 years, she is one of the ...
while filming ''The Pride and the Passion
''The Pride and the Passion'' is a 1957 American Napoleonic-era war film in Technicolor and VistaVision from United Artists, produced and directed by Stanley Kramer, starring Cary Grant, Frank Sinatra, and Sophia Loren. The film co-stars ...
'' (1957), arranged for Loren to take Drake's place in ''Houseboat'' with a rewritten script for which Drake did not receive credit. The affair ended in bitterness before ''The Pride and the Passion''s filming ended, causing problems on the ''Houseboat'' set.
Drake subsequently gave up acting and pursued other career interests. She earned a Master of Education
The Master of Education (MEd or M.Ed. or Ed.M.; Latin ''Magister Educationis'' or ''Educationis Magister'') is a master's degree awarded by universities in many countries. This degree in education often includes the following majors: curriculum an ...
degree from Harvard University
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and became a children's therapist. Drake was a director of psychodrama at the UCLA
The University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA) is a public land-grant research university in Los Angeles, California, United States. Its academic roots were established in 1881 as a normal school then known as the southern branch of the C ...
Neuropsychiatric Institute, worked at Cedars-Sinai Hospital, and maintained a private therapy practice. She taught at UCLA, Pepperdine University
Pepperdine University () is a private university, private Christianity, Christian research university affiliated with the Churches of Christ, with its main campus in Los Angeles County, California, United States. Pepperdine's main campus consists ...
, and presented research at the 52nd Annual Meeting American Orthopsychiatric Association in 1975. Under the name Betsy Drake Grant, her novel ''Children, You Are Very Little'' (1971) was published by Atheneum Books.
Drake's last screen appearance was in the documentary film ''Cary Grant: A Class Apart'' (2005), in which she reflected on Grant and their time together, and denied rumors alleging he was bisexual.
Personal life
In July 1956, Drake survived the sinking of the Italian ocean liner SS ''Andrea Doria''. At the time, she had been visiting Grant in Spain and was returning to the United States. She boarded it along with dozens of other wealthy travelers and tourists, at Gibraltar
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, which was one of many stops the ship made between her home port of Genoa
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and her final destination of New York City. Drake sailed as a first-class passenger, occupying a single cabin on the ship's boat deck. When the ''SS Andrea Doria'' collided with the ''Stockholm
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'', Drake waited with the other passengers for rescue, as the ship's severe list rendered half of its lifeboats useless. She was among more than 1600 people rescued from the ship by the famed French passenger liner '' SS Île de France''.
Grant and Drake separated in 1958, remaining friends, and divorced in 1962. Their marriage constituted his longest union. Grant credited her with broadening his interests beyond his career and with introducing him to the then-legal LSD
Lysergic acid diethylamide, commonly known as LSD (from German ; often referred to as acid or lucy), is a semisynthetic, hallucinogenic compound derived from ergot, known for its powerful psychological effects and serotonergic activity. I ...
therapy and to hypnosis
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. Later, Drake took LSD as a way of recovering from the trauma of divorce. Drake did not have children with Grant and did not remarry.
Drake spent the latter part of her life in London, where she died, aged 92 on October 27, 2015.
Filmography
* ''Every Girl Should Be Married
''Every Girl Should Be Married'' is a 1948 American romantic comedy film directed by Don Hartman and starring Cary Grant, Betsy Drake and Franchot Tone. Grant and Drake married a year after the film's release.
Plot
Department store sales ...
'' (1948) as Anabel Sims
* '' Dancing in the Dark'' (1949) as Julie Clarke
* '' The Second Woman'' (1950) as Ellen Foster
* ''Pretty Baby Pretty Baby may refer to:
* ''Pretty Baby'' (1950 film), a comedy film featuring Dennis Morgan and Betsy Drake
* ''Pretty Baby'' (1978 film), a drama film featuring Brooke Shields
** ''Pretty Baby'' (soundtrack), a soundtrack album from the film ...
'' (1950) as Patsy Douglas
* '' Room for One More'' (1952) as Anna Rose
* ''Will Success Spoil Rock Hunter?
''Will Success Spoil Rock Hunter?'' is a 1957 American satire (film and television), satirical comedy film starring Jayne Mansfield and Tony Randall, with Betsy Drake, Joan Blondell, John Williams (actor), John Williams, Henry Jones (actor), Hen ...
'' (1957) as Jenny Wells
* ''General Electric Theater
''General Electric Theater'' is an American anthology series hosted by Ronald Reagan that was broadcast on CBS radio and television. The series was sponsored by General Electric's Department of Public Relations.
Radio
After an audition show ...
'' as Ellie (one episode, 1958)
* '' Intent to Kill'' (1958) as Dr. Nancy Ferguson
* '' Next to No Time'' (1958) as Georgie Brant
* '' Clarence, the Cross-Eyed Lion'' (1965) as Julie Harper
Television credits
* ''General Electric Theater
''General Electric Theater'' is an American anthology series hosted by Ronald Reagan that was broadcast on CBS radio and television. The series was sponsored by General Electric's Department of Public Relations.
Radio
After an audition show ...
'' as Ellie in "A Question of Romance" (1958)
* '' Wanted: Dead or Alive'' as Lucy Fremont in "The Spurs" (1959)
* '' Cary Grant: A Class Apart'' (2005) as herself
See also
* List of American film actresses
The following American film actresses are listed alphabetically. It contains both actresses born American and those who acquired American nationality later.
Some actors who are well known for both film and TV work are also included in the lis ...
* List of Harvard University people
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* List of novelists from the United States
* List of old-time radio people
* List of women writers
The list of women writers has been split into two lists:
* List of women writers (A–L)
* List of women writers (M–Z)
See also
*Chawton_House#Chawton House Library: Women's Novels, Chawton House Library: Women's Novels
*Collective 18th-century ...
References
Suggested reading
* Grant, Betsy Drake (1971). ''Children You Are Very Little''. Atheneum Books: New York City; .
External links
*
Betsy Drake
at Turner Classic Movies
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