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Karola Ruth Westheimer ( Siegel; born June 4, 1928), better known as Dr. Ruth, is a
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sex therapist, talk show host, author, professor,
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, and former
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. Westheimer was born in Germany to a Jewish family. As the
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s came to power, her parents sent the ten-year-old girl to a school in Switzerland for safety, remaining behind themselves because of her elderly grandmother. They were both subsequently sent to concentration camps by the
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, where they were killed. After World War II ended, she immigrated to British-controlled
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. Despite being only 4 feet 7 inches (1.39 m) tall and 17 years of age, she joined the
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, and was trained as a sniper, but never actually fought. On her 20th birthday, Westheimer was seriously wounded in action by an exploding shell during a
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attack on Jerusalem during the
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, and almost lost both of her feet. Moving to Paris, France two years later, she studied psychology at the Sorbonne. Immigrating to the United States in 1956, she worked as a maid to put herself through graduate school, earned an M.A. degree in sociology from
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in 1959, and earned a doctorate at 42 years of age from
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, in 1970. Over the next decade, she taught at a number of universities, and had a private sex therapy practice. Westheimer's media career began in 1980 with the radio call-in show ''Sexually Speaking'', which continued until 1990. In 1983 it was the top-rated radio show in the area, in the country's largest radio market. She then launched a television show, ''The Dr. Ruth Show'', which by 1985 attracted 2 million viewers a week. She became known for giving serious advice while being candid, but also warm, cheerful, funny, and respectful, and for her tag phrase; "Get some". ''The New York Times'' noted in 1984 that she had risen "from obscurity to almost instant stardom." She hosted several series on the
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and other cable television networks from 1984 to 1993. She became a household name and major cultural figure, appeared on several network TV shows, co-starred in a movie with
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, appeared on the cover of ''
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'', sang on a
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album, appeared in several commercials, and hosted ''Playboy'' videos. She is the author of 45 books on sex and sexuality. The one-woman 2013 play ''Becoming Dr. Ruth'', written by Mark St. Germain, is about her life, as is the 2019 documentary, ''
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'', directed by Ryan White. Westheimer has been inducted into the
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, and awarded the Magnus Hirschfeld Medal, the
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, the Leo Baeck Medal, the
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, and the
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.


Early life and education


Germany

Westheimer was born Karola Ruth Siegel, in the small village of Wiesenfeld (now part of
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), in
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. She was the only child of
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, Irma (née Hanauer), a housekeeper, and Julius Siegel, a notions wholesaler and son of the family for whom Irma worked. From the age of one, she lived in an apartment in
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with her parents and her paternal grandmother, Selma, who was a widow."Preserving Family Stories: Ruth: A Little Girl's Big Journey"
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She was given an early grounding in
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by her father, who took her regularly to the synagogue in the
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district of Frankfurt, where they lived. Her father, 38 years old at the time, was taken away by the
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s who sent him to the
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a week after
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, the "Night of Broken Glass" when Nazis burned down 10,000 Jewish stores as well as Jewish homes and synagogues, in November 1938. Westheimer cried while her father was taken away by
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men in glossy black leather boots who loaded him on a truck, while her grandmother handed the Nazis money, pleading "Take good care of my son."


Switzerland

Westheimer's mother and grandmother decided that
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was too dangerous for her, due to the growing Nazi violence. Therefore, a few weeks later, in January 1939 they sent her on the '' Kindertransport'' organized Jewish children's rescue train to Switzerland, though she desperately did not want to leave. Westheimer, age 10, from that moment on was never hugged again as a child. She arrived at an orphanage of a Jewish charity in Heiden, Switzerland, as one of 300 Jewish children, some as young as six years of age. By the end of World War II, nearly all of them were orphans, as their parents never made it out of Germany, and were murdered by the Nazis. In the orphanage she was given cleaning responsibilities, and took on the role of a caregiver and mother-like figure to the younger children. She remained at the orphanage for six years. Westheimer, being a girl, was not allowed to take classes at the local school. However, a fellow orphan boy would sneak her his textbooks at night so she could read them in secret and continue her education. While at the Swiss orphanage, Westheimer corresponded with her mother and grandmother via letters. Their letters ceased in 1941. Her father was murdered in the
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in 1942. Her mother was killed during the Holocaust, but there is no information about the specific circumstances of her killing. In the database at the
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World Holocaust Remembrance Center, Westheimer's mother is categorized as ''verschollen'', or 'disappeared'/murdered. In addition to Westheimer's parents, all of her other relatives were killed in Nazi concentration camps. For many years she lived with an "irrational guilt," that if she had stayed in Germany she could have saved her parents. But now she says the guilt has been replaced by an admiration for her parents' sacrifice in sending her to safety, saying: "I would not have the courage to send my own children away like that."


Israel

After World War II ended, Westheimer decided to immigrate to British-controlled
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at 16 years of age. Immigrating there in September 1945, at 17 she joined and worked in agriculture at Kibbutz Ramat David, changed her name from Karola to her middle name Ruth, and "first had sexual intercourse on a starry night, in a haystack, without contraception." She later told ''
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'' that "I am not happy about that, but I know much better now and so does everyone who listens to my radio program." She next lived on Moshav Nahalal, and then Kibbutz Yagur. She then moved to
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in 1948 to study early childhood education. Westheimer joined the
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Jewish
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underground paramilitary organization (later, the
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) in Jerusalem. Because of her diminutive height of , she was trained as a
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and
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. Of this experience, she said, "I never killed anybody, but I know how to throw hand grenades and shoot." She became an ace sniper, and learned to assemble a rifle in the dark. When she was 90 years old, she demonstrated that she was still able to put together a Sten gun with her eyes closed. In 1948, on her 20th birthday, Westheimer was seriously wounded in action by an exploding shell during a
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attack on Jerusalem during the
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; the explosion killed two girls who were right next to her. She had near-fatal injuries; she was temporarily paralyzed, almost lost both of her feet, the top of one of her feet was blown off, and it was several months of recuperating in a ward before she was able to walk again. In 2018 she said that she still visited Israel every year, and felt that it was her real home, and the following year said that she was and is a Zionist.


France

In 1950, at the age of 22 Westheimer moved to France. There she studied psychology under psychologist Jean Piaget at the
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(the Sorbonne), and earned an undergraduate degree despite not having had a high school education. She then taught psychology at the Sorbonne.


United States

In 1956, at 28 years of age and with a newborn daughter, Westheimer immigrated to the United States, settling in
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.America's Significant Other: Dr. Ruth (1991)
''OpenMind'' 1991.
She worked as a maid, initially for 75 cents an hour and later for one dollar an hour, to put herself through graduate school. Westheimer earned an M.A. degree in
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from
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in 1959, with the help of a scholarship. She was a single mother, and an organization named Jewish Family Service paid for her daughter to stay with a foster family during the day, and then when her daughter was three years old at a German Jewish Orthodox nursery school, as Westheimer worked and went to classes at The New School. She then earned a doctorate at 42 years of age, as she received a
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(Ed.D.) degree from
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in Family-Life Studies in 1970 with the help of a scholarship, studying under
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. She then trained as a sex therapist at the New York Hospital-Cornell Medical Center/ Cornell Medical School, working for seven years under sex therapist Helen Singer Kaplan, two years training under her and five years training others. Westheimer became a naturalized U.S. citizen in 1965. She married, for the third time, in 1967. She regained her German citizenship in 2007 through the German Citizenship Project that enabled descendants of Germans deprived of their citizenship during Nazi rule to reclaim their citizenship without losing the citizenship of their home country.


Early career

After receiving her doctorate, Westheimer briefly worked for
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in
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training women to teach sex education, and this experience encouraged her to continue studying
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. She went on to work as a
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at
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. She continued to work there as an adjunct associate professor for five years. She also taught at
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,
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,
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,
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,
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, New York Hospital-Cornell Medical Center/
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, and
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."Dr. Ruth Westheimer,"
WQXR.
In addition, she treated
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patients in a private practice, on East 73rd Street on the
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of Manhattan.


Media career

Described as "Grandma
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" and the " Sister Wendy of Sexuality", Dr. Ruth helped revolutionize talk about sex and sexuality on radio and television, advocating for speaking openly about sexual issues. She fielded questions ranging from women who did not have
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s, to the best time of day to have sex (the morning), to men with premature ejaculations, to foreplay, to oral sex, to
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("embrace them"; "If you want to believe that a whole football team is in bed with you, that's fine"), to
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, to
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s, to sexual positions, to the
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."Dr. Ruth, TV's Pixie of Passion,"
''The Washington Post''.
She stressed that: "anything that two consenting adults do in the privacy of their bedroom or kitchen floor is all right with me." Asked a question as to having sex with an animal, she responded: "I'm not a veterinarian." She spoke out against engaging in any sexual activity under pressure, and against
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. She spoke out strongly in favor of having sex, in favor of
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being used, in favor of the availability of
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as an aid for contraception failures, in favor of sex within relationships rather than one-night stands, in favor of funding for Planned Parenthood, and in favor of research on
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, and educated her listeners about
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s. She became known for giving serious advice while being candid and funny, but warm, cheerful, and respectful; and for her tag phrase: "Get some". Journalist
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described her as a "world class charmer." One journalist described her voice as "a cross between
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and
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". She was noted for having "an accent only a psychologist could love", one that was "dripping chicken soup." ''The New York Times'' noted in 1984 that on radio the 55-year-old had risen "from obscurity to almost instant stardom." Journalist Jeannette Catsoulis wrote later in ''The New York Times'', "It's hard to explain how revolutionary her humor, candor and sexual explicitness seemed for the time."


1980-89

Dr. Ruth's media career began in 1980 when she was 52 years old, and her radio show, ''Sexually Speaking'', debuted on WYNY-FM in New York City. In it, she answered questions called in by listeners, and the show ultimately became nationally syndicated. She was offered the opportunity after she gave a lecture to New York broadcasters about the need for
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programming to help deal with issues of
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and unwanted pregnancies. Betty Elam, the community affairs manager at WYNY, was impressed with her talk and offered Westheimer $25 per week to make ''Sexually Speaking'', which started as a 15-minute show airing every Sunday at midnight, which was historically a dead time. By 1981, as the show attracted 250,000 listeners every week despite the network not doing any promotion for it—growing simply by word of mouth, it was extended to be one hour long on Sunday nights, starting at 10 pm. It was soon picked up by 90 stations across the United States, and it ran for a decade. The show broke taboos of the time, about speaking publicly and explicitly about sex. ''The New York Times'' described it as one of the station's "oddest shows," and among its biggest draws. A New York University professor of human sexuality made listening to her show a class assignment. When the station offered a "Dr. Ruth T-shirt" ("Sex on Sunday? You Bet!"), it received 3,500 orders. By 1982, her show was WYNY's top-rated phone-in talk show. Singer
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recorded a song as an ode to her, "Dr. Ruth," with a trendy, dance-rock tinged, high pressure beat. By 1983 her show was the top-rated radio show in the area, in the country's largest radio market. In 1984
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began syndicating the radio program nationwide—it is now heard in 93 markets. She went on to produce her radio show until 1990. In 1984, Westheimer began hosting several television programs on the Lifetime TV network, and one in syndication. Her first show was ''Good Sex! With Dr. Ruth Westheimer'', airing for a half hour at 10 pm on weeknights. She would end each show by reminding her audience: "Have good sex!" The show was expanded in 1985 to a full hour, and its name was changed to ''The Dr. Ruth Show''. During each of her live shows, 3,000 callers tried to get through, and the show attracted an average of 450,000 viewers a night, double the audience previously watching at that hour, and attracted more viewers than any other show on Lifetime; that number rose to 2 million homes a week. In April 1985 she appeared on the cover of ''
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''. That year she also appeared as an actress in the French romantic comedy film ''
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'' (''One Woman or Two''), starring
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and Sigourney Weaver, playing the part of a wealthy philanthropist. ''Dr. Ruth's Game of Good Sex'' was released in 1985. A Baltimore distributor said: "I'm going to have to compare this to ''
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''. The orders overshadow anything we've had in our company's 100-year history." ''Dr. Ruth's Computer Game of Good Sex'' was a hit, released in 1986 for the
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,
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, and
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. In addition, she gave an interview in the January 1986 issue of ''
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''. In 1987 she began a separate half-hour syndicated series on many broadcast stations called ''Ask Dr. Ruth'', which was co-hosted by Larry Angelo. Westheimer's friend
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, the writer of the 1987 romantic drama dance film '' Dirty Dancing'', attempted to cast her to play Mrs. Schumacher in the film (with Joel Grey as her husband). However, Westheimer backed out when she learned the role involved her playing a thief. She appeared on a ''
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'' cover in 1988. Dr. Ruth returned to the Lifetime network in 1988 with ''The All New Dr. Ruth Show''. That was followed in 1989 by two teen advice shows called ''What's Up, Dr. Ruth?'', and a call-in show, ''You're on the Air with Dr. Ruth'' in 1990. That year she also appeared in an episode of the television series '' Tall Tales & Legends'' as the "Mysterious Stranger." During the 1980s "Dr. Ruth" became a household name and a major cultural figure; during the 1980s and 1990s she made frequent guest appearances on several network television shows, including ''
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'', and appeared on talk shows on German television. She was portrayed on ''
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'' by Mary Gross in " Saturday Night News" four times in 1983, and twice in 1984, and was a guest on ''
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'' twice in 1982, once in 1983, three times in 1984, twice in 1985 - in addition to being impersonated in a "Mighty Carson Art Players" sketch, and once in 1986, on '' Joan Rivers: Can We Talk?'' twice in 1986, seven times as a panelist on the game show '' The New Hollywood Squares'' in 1986–87, on ''
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'' once in 1989, on '' The Joan Rivers Show'' once in 1989, and on ''
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'' in both 1989 and 1990. In 1987, she made a TV commercial for Signal mouthwash.


1990-99

In 1993, Westheimer and Israeli TV host Arad Nir hosted a talk show in Hebrew titled ''Min Tochnit'', on the newly opened Israeli Channel 2. The show was similar to her US ''Sexually Speaking'' show. The name of the show, ''Min Tochnit'', is a play on words: literally "Kind of a program", but "Min" (מין) in Hebrew also means "sex" and "gender". 1993 and 1994 saw the publication of "Dr. Ruth's Good Sex Night-to-Night Calendar." In 1994, she appeared in a computer game, an interactive CD-ROM adaptation of ''Dr. Ruth's Encyclopedia of Sex'' released for
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and the Philips
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. In 1995 she hosted a series of ''
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'' instructional videos entitled "Making Love." She also wrote a column distributed both nationally and internationally by the
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. In 1996, she co-authored ''Heavenly Sex'', on Judaism and sex, in which she wrote: "The great rabbi Simeon ben-Halafta called the penis the great peacemaker of the home." She refers to the
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as encouraging single women to initiate sex (providing the relationship leads to marriage), cites a
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ic mandate that an unemployed man must make love to his wife every day, and mentions the writings of a 12th-century rabbi who suggested that couples use different positions while having sex. In the 1990s Westheimer was a guest star in 1992 on the television soap opera ''
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'', and appeared as herself in "
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" of a 1993 episode of the sci-fi drama series '' Quantum Leap''. She appeared on the BBC radio show ''
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'' in 1990, on ''The Arsenio Hall Show'' once in 1990, once in 1991, once in 1993, and once in 1994, on ''
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'' once in 1991, on '' Late Night with Conan O'Brien'' once in 1994, twice in 1995, three times in 1996, and once in 1997, on ''
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'' once in 1998, and was featured in a '' Celebrity Deathmatch'' episode
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. Dr. Ruth also appeared in several commercial advertisements, including a 1990 commercial for Clairol Herbal Essences shampoo and body wash, a 1991
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commercial (along with
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, Frankie Avalon,
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, and Gilbert Gottfried), and a 1994
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ad.


2000-09

In 2000 she appeared on Grammy Award winner
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's album ''This Pretty Planet'', in the song "Two Kinds of Seagulls", in which she and Chapin sing in a duet of various animals that reproduce sexually. "It takes two to tingle" says the song. That year, she also made a TV commercial for
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Raspberry Danish Twist. Between 2001 and 2007, Westheimer made regular appearances on the PBS children's television series ''
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'' as "Dr. Ruth Wordheimer" in a spoof of her therapist role, in which she helps anxious readers and spellers overcome their fear of long words. In 2002, she received a nomination for a Grammy Award for Best Spoken Word Album for Children, for ''Timeless Tales and Music of Our Time''. In 2003–04, she made 10 appearances as a panelist on the game show '' Hollywood Squares''. In 2004 she made a guest appearance on '' Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me!'', an NPR news panel game, and in 2007 she appeared on '' Live with Regis and Kelly''. In January 2009, the 55th anniversary issue of ''Playboy'' magazine included Westheimer as #13 in a list of the 55 most important people in sex from the past 55 years. That year, ''
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'' named her one of "12 women who changed the way we look at sex." She also appeared in the 2009 documentary '' Hugh Hefner: Playboy, Activist and Rebel''.


2010-present

In 2011,
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Nate Berkus hosted her on '' The Nate Berkus Show'', after redoing the living room and dining room of her Manhattan apartment, in which she had lived for 50 years, to reduce clutter. She appeared as a guest on '' The Doctors'' in 2011 and 2012, on '' Joy Behar: Say Anything!'' in 2012, on '' Rachael Ray'' in 2013 and 2015, and on ''
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'' in 2015 and 2019. Not slowing down, in 2018 she wrote three books. In 2019, she published her 45th book on sex and sexuality. On her 91st birthday, June 4, 2019, Westheimer appeared as a guest on ''
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'', and she visited Ellen's show again in November 2019, taking questions from the audience, and was also a guest in November 2020. In 2019, Westheimer also appeared as a guest on ''
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'', '' The View'', ''
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'', and twice on ''
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''. She also has over 100,000 followers on Twitter. Speaking of
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in 2021, Westheimer said: "We must keep saying to the young people, 'Think of these words — never again! Never again!' All of this must never happen again."


Other activities

Westheimer has delivered
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es at the
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,
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of the
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and, in 2004, at
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, where she has been awarded
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s. She also was the guest speaker at the
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in New York in commemoration of Yom HaShoah 2008, and received an honorary Bronx High School of Science diploma. Westheimer is an accomplished ethnographer. Her studies in this field include the
Ethiopian Jews The Beta Israel ( he, בֵּיתֶא יִשְׂרָאֵל, ''Bēteʾ Yīsrāʾēl''; gez, ቤተ እስራኤል, , modern ''Bēte 'Isrā'ēl'', EAE: "Betä Ǝsraʾel", "House of Israel" or "Community of Israel"), also known as Ethiopian Jews ...
,
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's
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, and the
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, a sect originating from
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now residing in Israel, Syria, and Lebanon. The latter were the subject of her 2007 PBS documentary ''The Olive and the Tree: The Secret Strength of the Druze'', and a book of the same title. She was also the Executive Producer for PBS documentaries ''Surviving Salvation and No Missing Link'', ''Shifting Sands: Bedouin Women at the Crossroads'', and ''The Unknown Face of Islam'' (on the
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). Westheimer is a board member of the Museum of Jewish Heritage: A Living Memorial to the Holocaust in
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in New York City. She was also made a fellow of the
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, which is an honor for a non-physician.


Play and documentary on Dr. Ruth's life

In October 2013 the one-woman play ''Becoming Dr. Ruth'', written by Mark St. Germain and directed by Julianne Boyd and set in 1997, opened
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at the
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. Actress Debra Jo Rupp played the role of Dr. Ruth. The play showcased the sex therapist's life from fleeing the Nazis in the Kindertransport and joining the
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in
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as a scout and sniper, to her struggles to succeed as a single mother coming to America.
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played Dr. Ruth in the Virginia Repertory Theatre production of ''Becoming Dr. Ruth''. In 2021, actress Tovah Feldshuh has played Dr. Ruth. In 2019, the documentary ''
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'' directed by Ryan White was in theaters, and was made available on
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, as she approached her 90th birthday. it won a 4th Critics' Choice Documentary Award in 2019 as "Most Compelling Living Subject of a Documentary," and was a 19th AARP Movies for Grownups Awards nominee in 2019 for " Best Documentary." Having previously avoided discussing her early years and how the Holocaust affected her family and herself, Westheimer believed that current events made it necessary for her to "stand up and be counted." She said that seeing child refugees being separated from their parents upset her, because her own story was reflected in what they were going through.


Accolades

In 2008 Westheimer's name was added to the
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(as the first "Honorary Bronxite," chosen for contributions to the life of the borough). In 2010 she was made a member of the Women in Technology International Hall of Fame. In 2017 she was inducted into the German-American Hall of Fame. In 2019, she was inducted into the
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. Westheimer was named 1983 Jewish Woman of Achievement by a consortium of organizations connected with the Federation of Jewish Philanthropies in New York, received the 1986 Mayor's Liberty Award from New York City Mayor
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, was given the 1987 Motion Picture Theater Bookers Association Star of Tomorrow Award, her show ''The All New Dr. Ruth Show'' won a 1988
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, and was awarded the 1994 Magnus Hirschfeld Medal and the 1995 American Academy of Clinical Sexology Medal of Sexology. In 2002, she received the
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, as well as the Leo Baeck Medal for her humanitarian work promoting tolerance and
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, in 2006 the Columbia University Teacher's College Medal For Distinguished Services, in 2012 the National Alliance on Mental Illness Yale Mental Health Research Advocacy Award, in 2013 the Planned Parenthood
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, and in 2019 the
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and the James Parks Morton Interfaith Award. In 2000 Westheimer received an
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from
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, in 2001 an honorary Doctor of Humane Letters degree from
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, in 2008 an honorary doctorate from
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, in 2014 an honorary Doctor of Humanities degree from
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in Connecticut, and in 2019 an honorary doctorate from Ben Gurion University of the Negev (she remarked: "I wish I had met Ben Gurion. He was short.").


Personal life

Westheimer has been married three times, the first two times briefly. She said each of her marriages played an important role in her relationship advice, but after two divorces it was her third marriage, at age 32 to fellow Holocaust survivor Manfred 'Fred' Westheimer, that was the "real marriage". She met Fred on a
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in
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. Fred, too, had escaped
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. When Diane Sawyer, interviewing the couple for the TV show ''
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'' asked her husband about their sex life, he answered, "The shoemaker's children have no shoes." Their marriage lasted 36 years, until his death in 1997. She has two children, both of whom have doctorates, Miriam Yael Westheimer, who lived in Israel for six years and later married Joel Henry Einleger, and
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, a professor at the
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, and four grandchildren. She said: "I was so short - 4 feet 7 inches - that I couldn't believe that anything could grow inside of me." She speaks English, German, French, and
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. In December 2014, Westheimer was a guest at a wedding in
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. The groom, Rabbi Benjamin Goldschmidt, was the great-grandson of the woman who had helped rescue Westheimer from Nazi Germany. Among her concerns in the 21st century has been loneliness of people. Westheimer still lives in the cluttered three-bedroom apartment on 190th Street "in Washington Heights where she raised her two children and became famous, in that order." She has stayed there, she said in 1995, to be near the two
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s of which she is a member (one of which is the Reform synagogue the Hebrew Tabernacle Congregation of Washington Heights, and the other of which is
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; she used to also be a member of the Orthodox synagogue Ohav Shalom until it closed), the
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of Washington Heights and Inwood of which she was president for 11 years, and a "still sizable community of German Jewish World War II refugees." She explained: "Because of my experience with the Holocaust, I don't like to lose friends."


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Filmography

* '' Electric Dreams'' (1984); science fiction romantic comedy; cast as herself as talk show host * ''
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(One Woman or Two)'' (1985); comedy romance starring
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and Sigourney Weaver; cast as Mrs. Heffner * '' Quantum Leap'' (TV, 1993) "Dr. Ruth" (season 5, episode 14); science fiction; cast as herself * '' Forever, Lulu'' (1987), comedy mystery starring
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, Deborah Harry, and
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; cast as herself * ''The Emperor's New Clothes: An All-Star Illustrated Retelling of the Classic Fairy Tale'' (1998); cast as the Imperial Physician (voice) * '' The History of Sex'' (1999); documentary, interview * ''
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'' (2005) documentary about the pornographic film ''Deep Throat'', and its effects on American society; as herself * ''Lipshitz Saves the World'' (2007); comedy starring Leslie Nielsen; cast as herself * ''
Ask Dr. Ruth ''Ask Dr. Ruth'' is a 2019 documentary film directed by Ryan White (filmmaker), Ryan White, and produced by Jessica Hargrave, Christopher Leggett, Rafael Marmor, and Ryan White under the banner of Delirio Films, Neko Productions, and Tripod Media. ...
'' (2019; Sundance Film Festival); documentary directed by Ryan White follows Westheimer as she reflects on her life and career


References


External links

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Dr. Ruth's Encyclopedia of Sex
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Introduction to ''Sexually Speaking'' Radio Show
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"Arsenio Hall and Dr. Ruth visit Condomania,"
December 22, 2006 (''video'')

November 29, 2013, ''The New York Times'' (''video'')
"Oral history interview"
with Dr. Ruth by the
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