
In
human sexuality
Human sexuality is the way people experience and express themselves sexually. This involves biological, psychological, physical, erotic, emotional, social, or spiritual feelings and behaviors. Because it is a broad term, which has varied w ...
, a threesome is commonly understood as "a sexual interaction between three people whereby at least one engages in physical sexual behaviour with both the other individuals".
Though ''threesome'' most commonly refers to sexual activity involving three participants,
it is also sometimes used to apply to a long-term domestic relationship, such as
polyamory
Polyamory () is the practice of, or desire for, romantic relationships with more than one partner at the same time, with the informed consent of all partners involved. People who identify as polyamorous may believe in open relationships wi ...
or a
ménage à trois.
A threesome is a form of
group sex
Group sex is sexual behavior involving more than two participants. Participants in group sex can be of any sexual orientation or gender. Any form of sexual activity can be adopted to involve more than two participants, but some forms have t ...
which may occur in private situations, such as spontaneous sexual activity among three friends or in the context of
casual sex or a
hook up. Alternatively, it may take place in specific contexts or environments which allow for sex, such as
swingers events,
orgies
In modern usage, an orgy is a sex party consisting of at least five members where guests freely engage in open and unrestrained sexual activity or group sex.
Swingers' parties do not always conform to this designation, because at many swin ...
or
sex parties
Group sex is sexual behavior involving more than two participants. Participants in group sex can be of any sexual orientation or gender. Any form of sexual activity can be adopted to involve more than two participants, but some forms have t ...
.
A threesome is a common element of
sexual fantasy, and it is commonly depicted in
pornography
Pornography (often shortened to porn or porno) is the portrayal of sexual subject matter for the exclusive purpose of sexual arousal. Primarily intended for adults, .
Types
The people in a threesome may be of any
gender
Gender is the range of characteristics pertaining to femininity and masculinity and differentiating between them. Depending on the context, this may include sex-based social structures (i.e. gender roles) and gender identity. Most cultures us ...
and
sexual orientation
Sexual orientation is an enduring pattern of romantic or sexual attraction (or a combination of these) to persons of the opposite sex or gender, the same sex or gender, or to both sexes or more than one gender. These attractions are generally ...
. Each participant may engage in any type of sex act with one or both of the others, such as
vaginal,
anal or
oral sex or
mutual masturbation. One or more of the participants may engage in
autoerotic sexual activity, such as
masturbation, possibly without physical contact with the other participants. It is a matter of subjective definition whether participation of a third person without physical contact constitutes a threesome and this sort of sexual activity might instead be interpreted as
voyeurism or
cuckolding.
Triolism is a term that encompasses both threesomes and cuckoldry, although its usage across literature is inconsistent.
Threesomes are sometimes described using shorthand to refer to who was involved in the threesome e.g. MMF (male, male, female); FFM (female, female, male); MMM (male, male, male); FFF (female, female, female).
''Lucky Pierre'' is slang for a person performing both receptive and insertive anal and/or vaginal sex simultaneously during a threesome, being positioned between the two partners.
Academic research on threesomes
The first major academic work to address threesomes specifically was published in 1988, called: ''Threesomes: Studies in Sex, Power, and Intimacy'' by
Arno Karlen. In the work, drawing mainly from interview data, Karlen outlined how threesomes were often viewed as qualitatively different to other forms of group sex. Other notable findings include that threesomes were often viewed by women as a safe way to explore their sexuality; they often consisted of a couple joined by a third person; and that the third person was not necessarily viewed or treated equally. Karlen also suggested that the societal view of threesomes cast those who engaged in them as radically different to other members of society:
''There is a common tendency to think of people who have been in threesomes as alien beings. Like swingers, homosexuals and others who deviate from basic sexual norms, they seem to many to have entered another social, psychological, and moral sphere.''
Research exploring rates of threesome engagement suggest that men have both higher levels of interest and participation in threesomes. One study soliciting responses to a sex survey via a British newspaper found that 34% of 1,862 men, and 15% of 2,905 women had experience of a threesome. From a nationally representative sample in the USA, 34.1% of men and 11.1% of women found a threesome to be at least somewhat appealing and 18% of men and 10% of women had engaged in one.
Sex positions
Threesome sexual activity may take place in a number of
sex positions; for example, the following:
File:Édouard-Henri Avril (29).jpg, Painting by Édouard-Henri Avril: threesome involving two men and a woman
File:KamaSutra37.jpg, Threesome involving double penetration
File:Wiki-gangbang.png, Threesome involving two men and a woman
File:Wiki-FMF-threesome.png, Threesome involving two women and a man
Media
Threesome scenes are featured in various films and TV series, including ''
Summer Lovers'' (1982), ''
Threesome'' (1994), ''
He Got Game''
(1998),
American Psycho'' (2000),
''
Zoolander'' (2001), ''
Y Tu Mamá También'' (2001), ''
Ken Park'' (2002), ''
The Dreamers'' (2003), ''
Kiss Me Again'' (2006), ''
Shortbus'' (2006), ''
Vicky Cristina Barcelona
''Vicky Cristina Barcelona'' is a 2008 romantic comedy-drama film written and directed by Woody Allen. The film stars Javier Bardem, Penélope Cruz, Rebecca Hall and Scarlett Johansson in lead roles. The plot centers on two American women, V ...
'' (2008), ''
Shame
Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion often associated with negative self-evaluation; motivation to quit; and feelings of pain, exposure, distrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness.
Definition
Shame is a discrete, basic emotion, d ...
'' (2011), ''
21 Jump Street'' (2012), ''
On the Road'' (2012), ''
Savages
Savages may refer to:
Films
* Savages (1972 film), ''Savages'' (1972 film), by James Ivory
* Savages (1974 film), ''Savages'' (1974 film), an American TV film
* The Savages (film), ''The Savages'' (film), a 2007 film by Tamara Jenkins
* Savage ...
'' (2012), ''
Spring Breakers'' (2012), ''
Knock Knock'' (2015), ''
Love
Love encompasses a range of strong and positive emotional and mental states, from the most sublime virtue or good habit, the deepest Interpersonal relationship, interpersonal affection, to the simplest pleasure. An example of this range of ...
'' (2015).
See also
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Adultery
Adultery (from Latin ''adulterium'') is extramarital sex that is considered objectionable on social, religious, moral, or legal grounds. Although the sexual activities that constitute adultery vary, as well as the social, religious, and leg ...
*
Bigamy
In cultures where monogamy is mandated, bigamy is the act of entering into a marriage with one person while still legally married to another. A legal or de facto separation of the couple does not alter their marital status as married persons. I ...
*
Bisexuality
Bisexuality is a romantic or sexual attraction or behavior toward both males and females, or to more than one gender. It may also be defined to include romantic or sexual attraction to people regardless of their sex or gender identity, wh ...
*
Compersion
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Open marriage
*
Orgy
In modern usage, an orgy is a sex party consisting of at least five members where guests freely engage in open and unrestrained sexual activity or group sex.
Swingers' parties do not always conform to this designation, because at many swing ...
*
Polygamy
Crimes
Polygamy (from Late Greek (') "state of marriage to many spouses") is the practice of marrying multiple spouses. When a man is married to more than one wife at the same time, sociologists call this polygyny. When a woman is marri ...
References
External links
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