Single (relationship)

In legal definitions for interpersonal status, a person who is single is an individual not in a committed relationship, married, or part of a civil union.

Reasons people remain single

People may be or remain single for a variety of reasons, including (but not limited to) one or several of the following:

* Celibacy or sexual abstinence
* Aromanticism
* Asexuality
* Asociality
* Financial duress
* Their mental health
* Pursuing educational or professional advancement
* Lack of suitable partners
* Changes in perceptions of the necessity of marriage
* In some cases, single people may be uninterested in marriage, domestic partnership, or other types of committed relationships.
* Traumatic experiences including domestic violence, dysfunctional family, rape and/or sexual assault
* The increasing trend of marrying later in life and cohabitation
* Those with a neurodevelopmental disorder, such as those on the autism spectrum, can find it difficult to initiate, develop, and/or sustain relationships

Some single people regard and appreciate solitude as an opportunity. Some people stay single by choice. In addition to choosing singleness as a preferential option, there are also those who forgo marriage due to religious orders that prescribe its forbearance. These religious traditions include:

* The Christian monastic cultures of Catholicism, Eastern Orthodoxy, and Oriental Orthodoxy
* The specific Buddhist monastic traditions

Single culture in specific countries

United States

According to the United States Bureau of the Census, the fastest-growing household type since the 1980s has been the single person. Previously both socially uncommon and unaccepted due to perceived roles, public awareness, modern socioeconomic factors, and increasingly available popular and lengthier education and careers have made the single lifestyle a viable option for many Americans, especially after the Vietnam War.

According to the United States Bureau of the Census, in 2016, single adults accounted for over 45% of the US population. 65% of this group had never been married. In 2014, Pew Research Center notes that the highest percentage of never-married adults between White, Black, Hispanic and Asian Americans were Black Americans. The same study also projected that about 25% of millennials may not get married.

Pandemic effects

A 2024 Stanford University study found that the COVID-19 pandemic significantly increased the number of single Americans. Researchers estimated that an additional 13.3 million people were single in 2022 compared to pre-pandemic levels. This increase was attributed to the dissolution of new relationships, the failure of informal relationships to develop, and disruptions to the dating market.

The study also revealed that the average American's weekly socializing time had not fully recovered from the pandemic. In 2022, individuals reported spending an average of 4.1 hours per week socializing, which was still below the pre-pandemic average of 4.5 hours per week in 2019.

United Kingdom

Similar to the United States, single-person households have been seen to be increasingly popular in the United Kingdom. In the 2000s, studies found that more citizens were seen to be valuing their career over personal relationships. The increase in single-person households was also partly attributed to the high self-esteem it can offer to some people.

Japan

In Japan, it is not uncommon for citizens to choose to remain single. This has been illustrated with many public figures and celebrities. Women typically value friendships over romantic relationships; many continue to have jobs and marry later, or forego marriage completely.

However, people in Japan who do wish to date have reported that it is difficult to find the time to do so due to being overworked.

South Korea

In South Korea an unofficial holiday called Black Day is observed on 14 April each year by and for single people. Singles who did not receive gifts on Valentine's Day or White Day meet dressed in black and eat jajangmyeon, noodles covered in black bean paste. The dish is one of South Korea's national foods, and is considered a comfort food.

Sweden

In Stockholm, Sweden, sixty per cent of people live by themselves.

Terminology

Terminology for singleness varies, usually based on gender, language, and country. Generally singles can be categorized by the following terms: never married, separated, divorced, and widowed.

English

Terms used to describe single men are seldom used, and carry positive connotations. Single men are often simply referred to as '' bachelors''.

The English language has more terms for single, unwed women. These terms typically carry a negative connotation. Single women are sometimes called ''bachelorettes'', especially in festive contexts in American English. However, the historic term for unwed women is spinster. The connotations of the word ''spinster'' have changed so much over time that it is now considered a derogatory term. The Oxford English Dictionary says in its usage notes for the word:

:The development of the word spinster is a good example of the way in which a word acquires strong connotations to the extent that it can no longer be used in a neutral sense. From the 17th century the word was appended to names as the official legal description of an unmarried woman: Elizabeth Harris of London, Spinster. This type of use survives today in some legal and religious contexts. In modern everyday English, however, spinster cannot be used to mean simply ‘unmarried woman’; it is now always a derogatory term, referring or alluding to a stereotype of an older woman who is unmarried, childless, prissy, and repressed.

Though spinster has a long history of being negative, there are some authors, such as Katie Bolick, who are trying to change the word's connotation into something positive. Additionally, the phrase ''Old Maid'' is used to describe an unmarried woman.

In 2019, Emma Watson coined the phrase " self-partnered" to describe her status as happily single.

French

'' Catherinette'' was a traditional French label for women of 25 years who were still unmarried by the Feast of Saint Catherine.

Chinese

The term sheng nu is used to describe unmarried women who are in mid to late twenties in China and East Asia.

Japanese

In Japan, men who have no interest in getting married are called ''sōshoku(-kei) danshi'' (草食(系)男子 ) or Herbivore men. This term also describes young men who have lost their "manliness".

Civil status and health

A person's civil status can have an effect on their health. People have different perspectives on the ways in which civil status influences health.

A study in 2000 by the BioMed Central's public health journal covering the anti-depressant use of 3,500 Finnish people found an 80% increased risk of depression for those living alone. A 2022 finding published in the August issue of Frontiers in Psychiatry using 2,056 studies and data from 123,859 participants found that living alone increased the chances of depression by 42%.

Paul Dolan, professor in behaviorial science at the London School of Economics, explained that "if you're a woman, don't bother etting married, as a study from the American Time Use Survey found that single women live longer and happier lives than married women.

People who support singleness have different opinions on it, pointing out that not all marriages are created equal. Healthy people, with psychological well-being, have happy relationships with their partners. In contrast, unhappy marriages will have the opposite effect, "A bad marriage can make a person feel more isolated than being single"" Health Benefits Of Being Single"
''Huffpost Healthy Living''. 12 February 2013. according to sociologist professor Eric Klinenber at New York University.

A study of more than 10,000 adults found that married couples were more likely to gain weight during their process of romantic ventures than singles." Marriage and men's health"
. ''Harvard Health Publications''. 10 July 2011. In other words, married couples have a higher risk of weight gain that may be large enough to pose a health risk, as reported by Zhenchao Qian, professor of sociology at Ohio State University.

Targeting

Dating services are an especially targeted and advertised service for singles. The growth of the dating services and dating events industry has been so drastic that the phrase "dating–industrial complex" (reminiscent of President Dwight D. Eisenhower's term " military industrial complex") has been coined to capture the amount of money and manpower devoted to dating services for singles.

Singles events have been an area of particular growth in singles-related commerce. Many events are aimed at singles of particular affiliations, interest, or religions. Some of the most strongly attended such events are the Christmas Eve party targeted at young Jewish singles in major cities in North America, particularly the Matzo Ball and its big city competitors. A variety of other religious organizations' singles events are also very popular. However, dating via religious-sponsored singles events has also been criticized for fostering invasion of daters' privacy and undue expectations.

Also there is a Single Supplement that adds extra fees to those traveling alone.

In some countries, particular laws may directly or indirectly disadvantage single persons. In the United States, for example, Social Security widow(er) benefits are only available to those persons who have been previously married, and single people in the United States pay more income taxes than married people. In many countries tour and holiday operators impose a penalty (often as much as 100%) on persons who travel alone.

Older singles are also heavily targeted by marketers, for much the same reasons. They are typically divorcees or widowed, perhaps reconciled to being single for the rest of their lives, and looking to make the most of what remains to them. Their children, if any, will typically be financially independent. They may, or may not, be looking for another relationship. There is a whole industry dedicated to making unsolicited telephone calls to this group in the hope of exploiting the ones who cannot distinguish between the honest and the dishonest.

Depiction in popular culture

Film and television

*''Living Single''
*''Sex and the City''
*'' Entourage''
*'' How to Be Single''
*''The Golden Girls''
*'' The Single Moms Club''
*'' Girls''
*'' Singles''
*'' Bridget Jones's Diary''

Literature

*'' Bridget Jones's Diary''
*''Single Life: Unmarried Adults in Social Context''
*''Single: Arguments for the Uncoupled''
*''Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone''
*''All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation''
*'' Happy Singlehood: The Rising Acceptance and Celebration of Solo Living''

See also

* Singles Awareness Day
* Singles' Day
* Singleton (lifestyle)

References

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